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My husband doesn’t want have sex with me after birth

My baby soon will be 11 months! When I found out that I was pregnant we stopped having sex atv5 months! After I gave birth we had sex after 4 k months because I had to make a point and get upset if it was up to him he would happily not have sex at all!

Summer came all the time we had sex because I initiate it! After the summer holiday we were apart from each other for almost one month - I have been back for 1 week and he literally not even once he tried! Today we are going out for a date night which he insisted, I am annoyed that I need to leave my son behind and on the way I said what is the point about date night getting dressed and leaving my son behind as we do not have a date at home (meaning we do not have sex) I feel we are becoming roommates! He is amazing father and husband! I don’t work he let me look after my Baby and pursue my dreams! But I don’t want to be in a sexless marriage.

Maternity pay

Firstly, I just wanna say I recognise I’m in an incredibly privileged position and I’m definitely not taking it for granted. Secondly, I also really love my company and my bosses so I’m worried about falling out with them.

I work for a company that got bought out and therefore my contract changes mid mat leave. The first six weeks was under my old contract on statutory pay (90%) and the rest shifts to enhanced/full pay. The statutory average weekly earnings period was actually when I received my bonus so I would be entitled to more pay than a standard month under the 90% period.

I received my first payslip which would’ve had the first couple of weeks of Maternity pay and it was just my normal salary so I questioned it and they gave me the response that they were going to honour my new contract early rather than the statutory 90% of average weekly earnings (as if it’s a favour to me).

I was hoping for the extra money to cover the fact that my husband isn’t entitled to paternity pay but now I feel awkward saying anything to my boss as if I’m fleecing them of money or something and if they genuinely believe they’re doing me a favour by giving me enhanced pay rather than the “90%”.

Would you say anything or just be grateful to receive your normal salary?

Funny

So my husband want teax me last night saying( you know what I’ve noticed not that you have to you have an attempted to have sex for some reason)
This I’m just said yea just haven’t felt like lately but I’m thinking how tf you expect me want have sex with you after you told me you been sleeping with a whore and now she pregnant but I’m suppose still want have sex with you.

Husband is not romantic

So my husband doesn’t buy me flowers doesn’t really do dates and doesn’t buy gifts he says it’s just something he’s never really done for a girl and doesn’t see the point basically…he says he MIGHT buy me flowers MAYBE once a month but even that’s too much lol he rather just give me money when I ask etc lol and if anything he will give me money to buy my own flowers 🙂

Hot take ..

Whoever agrees to exchange numbers and says they want to be friends.. then ghosts .. you’re weird. . 🤷🏻‍♀️ that’s weird. . Don’t get my number then lol 🤣

I just need a rant….Struggling

Is anyone else really struggling? I feel like such a bad mum and guilty that I struggle and feel down….
We spend most days in while my partner works I have a new born and another just over a year, I struggle to leave the house with getting us all ready breastfeeding before we go then when we’re out my oldest cries because he wants to walk (has just learnt) or get out the pushchair and be involved or my baby cries because I’m not in eyesight. So in the end I just want to stay home, but then I get the guilt that all my child ever sees in the same 4 walls and the same toys.
I know it’s my own doing by having them so close in age but I feel so low that I don’t think I can do it.
Does it also make sense to say I’m lonely?
Idk I just want to cry sometimes