National guard parental leave
Has anyone in the army national guard dealt with taking parental leave and willing to walk me through it?
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The rules recently changed. Before, national guard Soldiers, even birth parent, didn’t get anything. I had 2 children in that time. Now you do! I can share the exact policy later with you but I believe it’s around 6 days off total. I would share the policy with your commander because not many people know it has changed!
The first set cannot be denied. I would provide the unit with the policy, and let them know what months you intend on missing. If it’s a drill in the future, during AT or an exercise, they can say no. Have an alternative dates just in case. I’m a commander and wasn’t aware of the change until a few months ago.
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