How would you feel about this situation? (Mum friends)

I have made 2 mum friends since I had my little girl in May.

I live in one village and they both live in the next village over, literally a 5 minute drive away. I met one first and then we met the 3rd mum a few weeks after and we all became friends really quickly. Turns out they live only a few streets away from each other.

Obviously with them living so close to each other they meet up frequently for walks round the village and I'm starting to feel a bit left out.

I still see them every Friday for baby playgroup, so I'm still included, and I don't want to seem clingy but I would like to be invited to the walks sometimes.. I don't mind driving round and meeting them. But I understand its probably just something they do last minute. Idk, it seems like they're going out for walks most evenings and I feel dumb for feeling left out 🥲😪

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your feelings are valid, you just need to accept that they live closer together and ask to be included in the walks.

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Same as what Julia said, but in time, you may be glad you have a little more independence. Living on top of each other loses its appeal a little over time, even though it's initially intense and highly gratifying. Meeting them frequently enough but not all the time isn't an issue if they are real friendship material.

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