My child 5 years old in Kindergarten has behavior problems in school possibly adhd and high anxiety and also hitting. We are in the process of getting an IEP but it takes 60 days. Our IEP meeting is oct 26. Every single day we bring him HES excited to go to school. Every day at 9:30am the school tells us we have to pick him up bc he’s he’s hitting and trying to elope and aggressive. The school starts at 8:30 and they say he can’t be in class for more than 30-1 hr.. why would I keep bringing him if he’s in school for 1-2 hrs and the school says they don’t have anyone to be with him or help him and they won’t let us help and be at the school. Im also waiting for aba services i also have him in okay therapy and don’t know what else to do besides keep him home wait for aba and call the school district or other resources to help have more support bc the school cant do anything for him. VERY Overwhelming.
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Hi I’m an experienced rbt I’m mostly called in to support when there’s students who are too aggressive for school staff! They should be providing an aide for him like myself every day so that they can do the iep testing. If they aren’t then they aren’t doing their part especially for you as the parent. A lot of the times the schools will send them home not wanting to deal with it. Refuse to pick him up not directly but then they will have to decide who is the most equipped to take care of your son in all the ways he needs to make it through the 60 days whether that’s watching movies all day or talking walks all day. It’s difficult for your family and the school needs to accommodate. You don’t have to pick him up they can’t send the students home believe me I’ve been beat black and blue and I still smiled the rest of the day knowing if it’s hard for me it’s harder for parents after school

I’ve worked with students for example who make it their mission to escape the school not knowing the dangers of the world and I with all my heart and mental strength kept that student on campus and even built a great relationship with them. They wouldn’t talk to any other staff just destruct. I had to advocate for the student as well when it came to staff saying he should be sent home. That’s why there’s jobs like mine RBT and paraprofessionals and whatever else there is. Mine is the most certified for elopement and aggression.

This sounds like the school doesn't want to deal with him and not that he's not manageable. That would make me consider other schools.
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My child 5 years old in Kindergarten has behavior problems in school possibly adhd and high anxiety and also hitting. We are in the process of getting an IEP but it takes 60 days. Our IEP meeting is oct 26. Every single day we bring him HES excited to go to school. Every day at 9:30am the school tells us we have to pick him up bc he’s he’s hitting and trying to elope and aggressive. The school starts at 8:30 and they say he can’t be in class for more than 30-1 hr.. why would I keep bringing him if he’s in school for 1-2 hrs and the school says they don’t have anyone to be with him or help him and they won’t let us help and be at the school. Im also waiting for aba services i also have him in okay therapy and don’t know what else to do besides keep him home wait for aba and call the school district or other resources to help have more support bc the school cant do anything for him. VERY Overwhelming.
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My husband can come across as really loving and sweet, but behind closed doors I often feel like I’m walking on eggshells.
He does not take any form of criticism well. He immediately becomes defensive and enraged and it always ends in a big fight.
He also does not take people joking with him well. If he is the subject of a joke/banter he will have a huge tantrum or go silent and want to leave. He ruined last Christmas after someone teased him a little bit. He spent all of Christmas Day alone, and went and had a nap up in the bedroom by himself, refused to eat Christmas dinner with everyone, and asked me if we could leave that night instead of staying over. He also ruined Easter because he was ‘so tired’, he didn’t want to go, and when we went he sabotaged it, didn’t join anyone for dinner and sat in a room with just our baby. He’s also sabotaged other events including most recently my brother’s wedding. I’m fed up with family events being ruined.
He never apologises for anything. And if I bring up something I’m not happy with with he will always spin it round so that he is the victim and I am in the wrong, so I always end up apologising even though I was mad at him in the first place. This happens every few days at the moment. I thinks he’s apologised first twice in our 4 year relationship.
He loves people praising him, and every day after work he brags about his achievements and often belittles his colleagues and their mistakes. He absolutely rages if anyone at work makes him feel small, or steps out of line. He hates his ego being diminished.
He checks out other women in front of me, then denies it. Makes me feel like I am wrong and he’s doing nothing wrong at all.
He doesn’t seem to have much empathy and has a very small amount a patience for our nearly 1 year old. Our son loves me unconditionally and isn’t that keen on my husband. Our son only settles with me and my husband hates this. I think it’s because my son senses it.
He gives me the silent treatment for hours or days at a time after an argument, especially if I was annoyed at him at first, and he’s spun it round on me. He’s so moody and irritable. I’m so tired of it.
Is he a narcissist?
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