Should I tell her something?
I suspect a friend of mine that I know for 5 years definitely has adhd and possibly autism. The thing is she doesn't realise how her reactions cause trouble and blames the other people all the time. I usually try to make her see things from the other side and offer suggestions, but she doesn't listen and it has to be how she says it should be.
Now that her child is growing up I see he has poor empathy, no social skills, is aggressive, hurts others, no risk aversion, no impulse control, no facial expressions and I can't avoid to think he may have autism and adhd. A year ago I brought it up once and she said no, no, he has plenty of friends and his milestones are fine.
I think she doesn't want to see or thinks autism and adhd look different.
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Does her child attend school or nursery, surely they would’ve picked up on this if he’s consistently demonstrating these things?
You could definitely try talking to her but if she refuses to listen there isn't much you can do and I would distance myself. If she asks why, just explain don't lie.
If her kiddo is in school. They will be telling her all about her kids behaviour.
Any chance you could reach out to her family or kiddo's dad?
She and her kid sound exhausting.
I am afraid it is one of those times when people feel insulted at others going around "diagnosing" children and people because they see their problems as normal.
Honestly, and I dont mean this in a rude way, i would just mind my own business. If it is not affecting your life, then just leave it be.
If your kids play together a lot and the child behaviour is affecting your child, then I'd distance myself
She could just be a Narcissist… with a resting bitch face
Your friend kinda just sounds like a jerk. She doesn't ever see the fault in her actions. I doubt she's gonna listen to anything you have to say about her child. Especially because you brought it up before. Leave her to figure that out.
What about her/your friendship do you like?
What makes you think she has adhd or she's autistic? Could she be just stubborn?
Oh gosh I just realised I used to have a friend like you're describing. I lost contacts with her after she was disrespectful to me at my wedding 😳 now I think maybe she have ashd , autistic, definitely OCD
You could not waterboard this thought out of me. I would never attempt to diagnose someone.
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Should I tell her something?
I suspect a friend of mine that I know for 5 years definitely has adhd and possibly autism. The thing is she doesn't realise how her reactions cause trouble and blames the other people all the time. I usually try to make her see things from the other side and offer suggestions, but she doesn't listen and it has to be how she says it should be.
Now that her child is growing up I see he has poor empathy, no social skills, is aggressive, hurts others, no risk aversion, no impulse control, no facial expressions and I can't avoid to think he may have autism and adhd. A year ago I brought it up once and she said no, no, he has plenty of friends and his milestones are fine.
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