Report to nursery or not...?

Id let it go. Was it the nicest? No. But every kid has bad days and that's okay. Shes allowed to go home and complain about her job to her husband. And he probably only said something because guys don't really think about stuff like that. As long as she's not taking out her anger at work on the kids, I don't see the harm in her venting to her husband a bit.

I think it’s safe to assume that everyone goes home and vents about their work day, and I’m under no allusion that nursery staff and teachers say these sorts of things about children in the privacy of their own home. The problem here is nothing to do with the nursery, so I wouldn’t involve them, it’s to do with the husband not keeping things said in privacy private.

Not sure whether this makes much difference to the opinions but my husband has corrected me, it's not her husband it's her father-in-law that he works with... so not someone she lives with.

sorry to be off topic: Are you in the UK? If so, is college your word for colleague or coworker?
I mean no offense, just intrigued

I mean I work in hospitality and trust me we talk about certain members, customers etc….
She probably didn’t mean it in a mean way and probably didn’t use those specific words
I wouldn’t give it a second thought 💭

I'd let it go. They're entitled to an opinion

Let it go. Probably not the best thing to say, but adults often cope in inappropriate ways. It wasnt said to the child and caused no harm. I wouldnt worry about it.