my partner doesn’t want anything to do with me or our daughter

he broke up with me about 4 days ago, blocked me on everything and said he doesn’t wanna hear or see anything about our baby girl. i feel devastated. ever since i got pregnant he wasn’t a very good partner. but before, he was perfect in every way. i was 18 at the time and i wanted an abortion because i wasn’t at a good place in life. he talked me out of it. since i gave birth, i had been begging him for the bare minimum. he basically treat me like he wanted nothing to do with me. my daughter is 14 months old and ive been struggling with motherhood the entire time. now that he’s left, (even though he didn’t really help out with anything at all anyways), i don’t know how to cope. i feel so alone & i don’t know how to move forward. i was struggling with motherhood so much as it was but now he’s left i just don’t even know how to continue.

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Life has blessed you with a beautiful baby and a man that is leaving you alone. I know it hurts, but this is really for the best and you are blessed that he just leave alone instead of try to make life really miserable. Focus on you and your baby and finding support and it will get easier. I wouldnt let him come around to mess with your head after this.

Thank god for that lovely! He has just got rid of your biggest problem! I was the exact same, but older but still not ready (or I didn’t think I was anyway) and I didn’t think I wanted the baby at the time, my ex decided he did and use to tell me over and over how much he wanted this family and for 9 months and ten days the DH did nothing! To this day still got nothing for the baby and I kicked him out 10 days PP for multiple reasons, including baby’s safety. You are allowed to be sad, allowed to be angry and I promise it does get easier! My baby’s 6 months not and BD is barely involved and TF for that! You deserve a lot more than him 🩵🩷 This is your opportunity now to live your life with your little one. Tbh he is probably better off cutting you off completely than keep coming back and forward! Just make sure you draw that line thick and clear! You are in control here take it. Join a local baby group, they do so many free ones! Most people don’t know each other, and I’ve never been

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The title says it all. I miss when I liked my husband. I miss the way I used to look at him proudly and how I always wanted to be wrapped up in him. I miss when I was interested in the things he was. I miss being attracted to him. So much has changed and I just don't really feel connected to him any more. I don't look at him with adoration. It's just not what it used to be. He doesn't feel like my best friend anymore. I miss the excitement and passion we used to have... and good sex. I miss just being there for each other instead of feeling like a burden. I just miss having a man around that I actually like and likes me back. Now he just gives me the ick.
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Advice is this a bit odd?

We’ve been together for years and 2 little kids has definitely put a stress on our life - can’t say it hasn’t.

My partner has never been too fussed about sex from my opinion. We’ve had lots of conversations about this and in some ways I’ve given up in recent times but we do still have sex maybe once / twice a month.

But I came back last month and found bottle of lube I’d never seen which upset me as he always says he doesn’t really like lube. It was on our desk / computer table. He said he’d had a wank while I was out. It was old like he said as I checked the date of it 2021 but he’s obviously gone to the shop and bought this. I also noticed around about this time that he had shaved his pubes/ neatened them up a bit.

He does does team sports but has done for years - but he hasn’t shaved this area for years I don’t think. Haven’t paid too much attention. He said at the time when I asked him that he’s losing hair now he getting older.

Today I saw he hadn’t shaved and clearly this wasn’t right - it looked like it always done so can’t have been losing hair.

I did ask him about this and said it’s because it’s itchy around here. Made me feel bad for asking but I don’t know - all seems odd.

Any ideas what’s going on here? I don’t feel he’d have time for cheating tbh - his hours vary but nothing noticeable but something feels a bit odd or am I paranoid?

Could all be innocent but I’m naive - could he have been on some sort of video thing that day?

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Can I get a ft and a hang out buddy ??

Text or FaceTime friend!

I’m a stay at home mom besides the one day a week i work + my so works a lot!
Be nice to have someone to text & facetime throughout the day
Motherhood can be lonely asf