Husband just said no to baby number 2
Not sure what to do now.. we are married and have LO 22 months this month. What if I can’t get past it.. he said he loves LO but doesn’t like being a dad.. do I give ultimatum or what?!
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Maybe see if he would talk to someone about why he doesn’t like being a dad. If this was the mother they’d probably be referred to talking to someone.
Maybe give it some more time ? The hardest years of being a parent are the first 3 in my opinion and he may well reconsider x
Being a parent is bloody tough. I think if he straight up doesn’t like being a dad, there shouldn’t be a “he doesn’t want to talk to someone” but more of a he needs to talk to someone, and he needs to take action now. I personally wouldn’t feel comfortable leaving my sons with my partner if he said he didn’t like being a dad - id be concerned about how he shows up for our kids.
Also, an ultimatum on what? If he refuses to have a 2nd child you’ll leave?
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Husband just said no to baby number 2
Not sure what to do now.. we are married and have LO 22 months this month. What if I can’t get past it.. he said he loves LO but doesn’t like being a dad.. do I give ultimatum or what?!
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