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Last night my 6 year old daughter was playing with my 8month old son... she decided to throw a small plastic ball at him. I didn't see it happen but I heard him screaming in pain like he was really hurt. I asked her over and over what happened and she wouldn't tell me. My husband got her to tell us she threw it at him on purpose and she eventually admitted she did it just because she wanted to hurt him. 💔 my daughter is from my first marriage and she does get jealous of the new baby.

Has anyone ever dealt with this? Im so scared she might try to hurt him again 😭 it left a red welt on his back. I'm going to take her to counseling... but I'm also due with another boy in November and I just feel really nervous about this behavior.

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I have a 5 year old son from a previous relationship and my 9 month old daughter with my current fiancé . He hasn’t been violent with her but in the beginning and ever once in a while he shows jealousy and lots of “ no one loves me , you guys only love sissy “ . The only thing I could suggest on top of the counciling for her behavior is maybe ensure quality time with just you and her and making sure your husband does the same . Sometime my fiancé and I will “ playfully exclude the baby and make sure my son knows he’s a priority. “Not right now baby girl I wanna hear your brothers story / play with brother right now “ it’s a not a cure all but making sure he knows we love him just the same has cut back drastically on the meltdowns and he expressing how he feels unloved in comparison with the new baby .

Omg my 4 year old son is constantly doing something to my 9 month old. And if ima be honest, it frightens me the potential feelings and reasons behind it. Like we try our best to give individual time from both me and my partner , but idk.

Sorry ur going thru that. My almost 3 year old used to do this too, and I used to be really gentle, talk to him and explain how that wasn’t right etc. I used to make him apologize and worse case, I’d have do a two min time out. I’m not gonna lie it got worse and worse, to the point where whenever he would get mad or wanted me to do something, he would just go attack the baby. I stopped that whole talking it out and immediately took action for ex, taking his toys, turn off the tv and console the baby. Huge difference, he now understands that he will get in huge trouble and all the fun would stop. The turning point for me is when he would gun for his face and eyes. So scary, but what I’m trying to say is get it under control as soon as possible!

We have nanny cams in our house for not even the nanny but the one day a week my in-laws watch the kids as I don’t trust them but the cameras have helped us investigate things when the toddler says one thing but baby is screaming as if she was hurt kinda situations and I 1000% recommend for piece of mind.

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