Give it to me straight! Am i selfish?

that's not selfish at all. I just became a SAHM. Previously worked full time so my kiddos were in daycare. But I quit my job after moving but the kiddos still go part time. We love the structure and the kiddos love their friends and teachers and honesty learn so much. Way more than I would have thought to teach them. I dont think its selfish and if you can afford it and it works for your family, do it. I'm a much better and more patient mom because I'm not burnt out and can focus on what I need to, when I need to whether that's maintaining the house, cooking, gym, kid activities, etc.

Wow your husband definitely sucks. I'm glad you're divorcing. You deserve a break and she is benefiting by getting to socialize and do activities at day care. It's not harming her at all and you'll be better able to take care of her without being completely drained all the time.

Also think about it this way. Daycare is good for your kid ! It’s not like they are there 8-6 like most kids today are. I feel your LO has the best of both worlds. I have really noticed changes and improvements in my daughter since she started going to daycare. So even if you didn’t need me time sending to daycare would have been a good decision anyway esp since it’s not all day everyday. And you have the flex to get her out whenever you are ready to play with her again.

Not selfish at all! If you can afford daycare and it’s helpful for you do it! It gives you time to get things done that you need to. And good in divorcing him he sounds like an asshat!