My bf came crawling back after dumping me over me following a guy on Ig last week (I’m 4 months pregnant and I didn’t chase him when he broke up with me). He says he wants this family and is willing to go to couples therapy and said all the right things but I’m still hurt about him being so quick to leave me while I’m pregnant 3 days ago. Am I holding on to it and should just try to move forward?
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I mean girl… i would wait because that is a sign of immaturity. He should really reflect on his own insecurities. He cant be putting you and your baby through that instability. Your emotions are def valid and i cant imagine how uncomfortable it is to go through something like that while pregnant, but dragging you to couples therapy is only a small step in a better direction. All imo ofc

If he is already acting like this and baby hasn’t even come yet, it’s a bad sign. I was w someone for 7 years who acted like he does and he was actually mad over the smallest things bc turns out he was insecure and also cheating. Be careful. I wish you the best. Don’t tolerate any disrespect or dumb break ups. Right now you’re in a vulnerable spot especially while being pregnant. Do what’s best for you. 🩷

Postpartum recovery and newborn sleep deprivation is very difficult. The last thing a postpartum mom needs is someone who adds problems to her life instead of solving them. Can he prove he is going to be a full-on parent and a strong safe partner to rely on?

Move on you dont need the drama
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Help!! I feel like such a loser. I have like no friends and just hang out at home with my kids and husband all the time. He is my best friend. But I also want girl friends to hang out with. He goes and hangs with his guy friends and I just stay home. He asked why I never go anywhere and I told him I have no friends and no idea how to even make friends. So help! How do you make friends these days?!

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She just wanted the dip (mayo and horseradish)

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My bf came crawling back after dumping me over me following a guy on Ig last week (I’m 4 months pregnant and I didn’t chase him when he broke up with me). He says he wants this family and is willing to go to couples therapy and said all the right things but I’m still hurt about him being so quick to leave me while I’m pregnant 3 days ago. Am I holding on to it and should just try to move forward?

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I know this is super specific but i’d really like to know some people in my shoes 😂
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If you're a self proclaimed people pleaser, please don't. I know it feels agreeable and diplomatic. I know you think its a way to keep peace and maintain relationships.
But rarely do people pleasers hide their true feelings as successfully as they think. The people on the receiving end of your pleasing can often tell you don't actually want to do the thing, or you don't actually like them, and it just makes you come across as insecure or ingenuine.
So now you're unhappy because youre going against your own preferences, and the recipient is unhappy because your words and behaviors and vibes don't sync up. It makes people question your motives and makes you seem untrustworthy. Have the confidence to be true to yourself for everyone's sake.
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