Little to no help

Please don't be so hard on yourself. You don't have to be perfect, so don't even try. Just be yourself, as much as you can. That's the one piece of advice I'd give you, because this is a long journey. If you want to get through it, at least be kind to yourself. Otherwise the kids will grow up, and you'll lose yourself in the process. ❤️

I’m sorry you’re going through this ❤️
I can relate, maybe putting your child in daycare or nursery part time so you can get a little rest break if she’s old enough to be away from you and go to nursery school that is, I know it’s hard having minimal help, things will get easier with time 🫶

Sometimes the mental load of feeling let down can be quite draining, adding in a new born can make it feel like you are struggling. But i promise it will only make you stronger and grow from it. Don’t be so hard on yourself, enjoy these early months (as you’ll miss it once its over)

Ask for help especially from your mum.

Have you got an assigned health visitor? Im doing it solo with no help from family or friends, but the health visitor comes to check in every other week which is just nice to feel supported by someone.

It is so hard and I’m sorry your village let you down too 😔 I don’t have any support either and it is so hard at times but I love my son so much and keep trying to focus on that when I’m really struggling and remind myself how amazing it is that I’m doing it all on my own! So please be proud of everything you’ve achieved so far and be kind to yourself 🫶🏼

Early on was the roughest for me. I knew I was gonna be doing this alone so I was prepared. I drove myself home from the hospital after I gave birth and to the hospital when I had contractions so mentally I was prepared to handle this and for me lack of sleep and hormones made me extra sensitive to this and feeling alone. I have no extra money for childcare or therapy so I try to squeeze in my personal time in between naps to feel good about myself. Sometimes that means the house doesn't get done. The joy your baby brings is because you are great at what you're doing. Just dont stress, do what you can and know it gets better. Be sure to remember that this will prepare for the hard times and strengthen you but you are a fierce mama and can do anything. Just give time especially for the mental to catch up.

i'm an estranged only child, with a child by a man that was married (unbeknownst) with the exception of my cousin just being in the same state from labor til 6 months i've had ZERO assistance outside of that.

my girl is 3 now & i'm winging it.

I am going through the same thing, my son is 15 mknths now and i have had him every single day.

Take one day at a time! The seasons changing now but try and go for as much walks as you can, it will help to clear your mind.

Its hard but you can do it! If you feel like you cant do another day, do tell your family you need help. Do not say you are okay when you aren’t, peoples first liner is “how are you?” Be honest and say exactly how you are.

I hope they come through for you!