Please yall I desperately need some sense spoken into me.

Cut.off. Completely… he’s got another girl just so he’s not lonely he doesn’t care he just doesn’t want to be alone. Honestly save yourself the bullshit and cut him off it doesn’t sound like a healthy situation to be in especially after having a baby and it’s not good for the baby either.

Damn I feel for you boo.. sounds like u and baby are safe where u at tho.. I feel like he probably is just using her for a place to stay but does she know about you and baby? Do u still love him and can see yourself with him? How is he around baby when he does visit? Does he work? Like if he has things lined up and going for himself and you’re still in love with him, then pray about it and ask the Lord to guide you. If he gives u the ick… then don’t do it! If she was just a place to stay.. then he shouldn’t have any issue with checking his other phone and checking on yall regularly.. if he can’t do that.. then perhaps he is trying to save her feelings.. when u and baby should come first

No man with a proper head on his shoulders would allow you to live in a single mom maternity home this long, while he does what he does. Honestly if your housing is working for you and keeping you less stressed. Absolutely stay there and find a way to make it on your own or find someone new. He's put himself in a position to where you can have a good start without him and genuinely, you will be fine, and find good love again. Walking into a life with him will most likely not 100% but most likely will be turmoil, bullshit, cheating, absent parent, you'll be a single mom with even more on your plate taking care of a man like that. That absolutely is your child's father but think about what YOU bring to the table because it doesn't seem like he can compete. I think we've all made mistakes we knew we should not have, make sure you hold yourself down ❤️

Imagine your son coming to you and telling you this like he’s doing it to his baby’s mama. How absolutely pissed would you be.

Definitely wouldn’t leave the housing you have now. What happens if you move with him and it doesn’t work? Sucks but you gotta think like that. My sons bio dad did the same shit to me. Fkd me about the whole pregnancy. Left at 2 weeks old (had seen him 2/3 times in that time) and then only “wanted” me. When I cut it all off he would use our son as a way to stay in contact but he’s never cared about him, seen him once at 2yr old never again, doesn’t contribute. He then went and got another gf and had a baby with her (which he stayed about for) Honestly I done so much better on my own.

I now have a home, my boy is 7, I have a wonderful partner and a baby on the way. Prioritise yourself and your baby over everyone and everything, including the dad. Especially if he’s gonna act like that.
Hope you’re doing alright and feel free to message if you ever need a chat x

He gets a place for you and your child to live. He leaves the situationship, he holds down a respectable job, all for one year and then you'll talk. But he needs to show you he's more than just words. If he actually cares about his child. He will do that. If he won't then he's not a good father and DEFINITELY not worth another thought from you.

This man is a mess. You need peace and stability baby, get that this thing out of your hair!