My partner just doesn’t care

Oh gosh bless you. Not sure whether your situation is worse or slightly better than mine. I've got nearly 3 yo with my partner and pregnant with our second, we don't live together and as time has gone on I see him less and less so I'm doing day to day things by myself. He comes around to look after our daughter when I need to work and she's not at nursery (about 3 to 4 times a month) and helps me out with stuff around the house - heavy lifting, putting furniture together etc but that's it we don't spend any quality time together. He's sympathetic to my pregnancy ailments and comes to appointments with me but it's like he only comes around when there's a need to, not because he wants to see me and spend time together. It's so upsetting, I empathise with you. One of the reasons I joined this app to be honest because I feel so alone.

I don't think that man likes you or enjoys being a Dad, which doesn't bode well for your newborn. You deserve a present, active, compassionate partner who cares enough to support you through navigating pregnancy, labour and new motherhood with a toddler in tow. He sounds like a hindrance you need to let go of. Since you're already living like a single parent with him in the house, he's just another person you have to take care of - not something you need with a newborn on the way. Ditch him for your own mental health and children's happiness. He's emotionally immature and unavailable at best, and a narcissist at worst. Ridiculous that he's implying you forced him into having another child when I'm sure he was more than happy to be part of the baby making process! I'm irritated for you.

I second what Kim says. Could you kick him out and see what happens? Sometimes thats all it needs to give them a reality check. Also, you dont need that in the delivery room with you. Do you have a back up option? Mum, sister, best friend?

What is with men these days 🤯

Honestly I’d rely on your village. Mom, family and friends. Last thing you’d want is your children to see how distant their dad is towards them. At your most vulnerable stage this is how he treats you and women always try to empathise or understand how men feel when they’re not the one going through the big change. I’ve had too many women tell me even though they’re married/with someone they may as well be single whilst raising their kids.

I think you should prioritise your wellbeing and happiness 💜