Upstate ny mamas 🌳💕

Upstate NY mamas! 💕 Looking for my mom-besties! I am on the younger side, I have one bonus baby and one bio baby, 420 friendly 🍃 , down for drinks 🍾, and always down for coffee & playdates or just a good chat while the kids play. 🫶🏼 No drama✨anyone near Chautauqua 🥰? 💗

in our community

I don’t think I’m meant to have friends..

This is just me rambling and getting my feelings out so apologies if it’s a little jumbled.

At this rate I’m starting to think I’m not meant to have any meaningful friendships. I have always been the friend who reaches out first, plans the outings, host the monthly girls night, and makes an effort to be a good friend. So, lately I’ve stepped back and well, now my feelings are hurt. Bad.

It started a year ago. I was 9 months pregnant and told my group of girlfriends that I would not be able to host our monthly girls night. They all immediately chipped in saying they’ll take over while I navigate a newborn and motherhood. Fantastic! Not. No one hosted or even discussed it after that. But many of them made sure to mention they miss girls craft night and miss everyone and we need to do something soon. No plans occurred or were planned.

Now onto the biggest confirmation. My birthday was completely ignored/forgotten/skipped. This group of friends and I have ALWAYS celebrated birthdays. Whatever the birthday girl wanted. Movies, dinner, bookstore crawl, game night, paint pottery. It was done (within reason). But this year I was skipped. I was asked when and what I wanted to do. I gave them dates and told them just lowkey dinner and maybe a movie. Did I hear anything back? No. Did I ask? No, but how do you ask when you’re already struggling with feeling like an outcast?

I dont know if it’s hormones, my anxiety, or if I just give too much of myself to people. I want so badly to have friends who love and cherish me as I do for them. Someone who reaches out if they don’t hear from me for a day or two. I know being a mom is busy and hard but I can’t see how hard it is to send a simple text saying ‘hey, I’m thinking about you.’

Christmas!

Hey lovelies.

What are you planning on getting your 6mo for Christmas? Im making my list and im so excited 🤣

So far I only have some loveys, stacking toys and then an object permanence box.

Second baby

So I found out I’m pregnant this will be my second pregnancy I’m 5weeks and 5 days but my bf want me to have an abort and I don’t know if I want to he made his mind up and he letting that be known I don’t know what to do every time we try to talk about it, it doesn’t always get solved we can’t get on the same page 🤦🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️
Any tips?

mums without mums 💔😪

Anyone else no contact with their mum or other family members? It is so hard and isolating, I wish I could have had that perfect family, my baby should have grandma and other family!! I tried so many times to fix it and to deal with my mom and at least try to stay cordial and ignore her remarks but my mom was always so overly dramatic and mean to me, she even said I’m not her child anymore and to not come around for holidays about 4 years ago because she didn’t like the guy I’m with 💔😪 Our relationship was always strained since I was a child too..

Work from home jobs

I currently work from
Home but I need a higher paying work
From home job any suggestions ladies?? Just trying to take care of my family

Distance

Why is it that when I’m swiping to find friends (within a 15 mile radius) it’s showing people over an hour away… I live in NWI and it’s showing people all the way in Chicago. Like cool I’m open to talking but let’s be honest I don’t wanna travel to Chicago to meet up with someone or have them travel all the way here! Why can’t it just show me people near me and be done with it?