SAHM problems; Who else is sick of this?!
I’m so fucking sick of people acting like being a SAHM means I’m doing absolutely nothing. I’m so fucking sick of the father of my child & his family, my mother, my sister and everybody else acting like I’m not shit because I stay home to care for my child. Like how fucking bizarre to act like being a SAHM isn’t important and special? I am so god damn tired all of the time 24/7, the only “break” I get is when I’m either at the gym or sleeping. I’m so tired of having to feel like I need to defend myself and explain myself. Like WTF is wrong with people?! I think ppl really need to have more compassion for mothers. Like why is that moms all of a sudden don’t seem lazy if you get paid as a daycare worker, but I’m lazy if I want to care for my own child at home? Wtf?! I feel so angry and so helpless. Why do I get treated like shit just for wanting to raise my own child? This bullying has got to stop. It’s ok if you have to work and it’s ok if you stay home and don’t get cash for raising your own child. It’s un-fucking-believable how ppl treat me and I’m so fucking sick of it!!!! I’m almost at the point where I will just go to work and disown every body.
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I have so much respect for SAHMs, I definitely couldn't do it. I'm sorry you have reached breaking point. 🤍
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As a solo full time working parent I am so jealous of your gym breaks 🤣
That said being a sahm is by far the harder option in my eyes. I do not understand why it is such a misunderstood and devalued role. What are they doing that is making you feel a type of way? I don't doubt it but knowing how they are doing it can help us advise you how to deflect x
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SAHM problems; Who else is sick of this?!
I’m so fucking sick of people acting like being a SAHM means I’m doing absolutely nothing. I’m so fucking sick of the father of my child & his family, my mother, my sister and everybody else acting like I’m not shit because I stay home to care for my child. Like how fucking bizarre to act like being a SAHM isn’t important and special? I am so god damn tired all of the time 24/7, the only “break” I get is when I’m either at the gym or sleeping. I’m so tired of having to feel like I need to defend myself and explain myself. Like WTF is wrong with people?! I think ppl really need to have more compassion for mothers. Like why is that moms all of a sudden don’t seem lazy if you get paid as a daycare worker, but I’m lazy if I want to care for my own child at home? Wtf?! I feel so angry and so helpless. Why do I get treated like shit just for wanting to raise my own child? This bullying has got to stop. It’s ok if you have to work and it’s ok if you stay home and don’t get cash for raising your own child. It’s un-fucking-believable how ppl treat me and I’m so fucking sick of it!!!! I’m almost at the point where I will just go to work and disown every body.
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