Husband problems

So me and my husband having going back and forth with the same issue since 15 years ago, he is distant and doesn’t have much interest in what I do or have to say. He is either on his phone or sleeping when there is time for us to spend together. He provides and is a good dad, spends time with the kids. He only pays attention to me just before he wants to get intimate. I am sick and tired of been lonely in this marriage. I have given my all, I am a good wife and mother. I have reached a point of not reaching out anymore. I do worry for the consequences of our marriage totally firing once I act the way he does too bu it’s exhausting from my end. Anyone else going through this. Divorce isn’t an option yet as the kids are young and it’s highly impractical to be a single mum for me. What to do, to survive this marriage?

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You can only control you. So do whatever you need to fill your cup.

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Here’s my advice, I would start doing all of the nice things that you would do for him, do it for yourself. Take yourself out on solo dates, take yourself to get pedicures, go to the café. Pour into yourself. It’s weird, but men pay attention to a silent busy woman.

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Focus on your hobbies and children. Don't discuss anything unnecessary. Text him things that need to be done. Treat it as such, as long as he gets intimacy he won't care. Sad as it is.

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Talk to his ass if he ain’t listening he don’t care ur in a marriage by urself😭

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So me and my husband having going back and forth with the same issue since 15 years ago, he is distant and doesn’t have much interest in what I do or have to say. He is either on his phone or sleeping when there is time for us to spend together. He provides and is a good dad, spends time with the kids. He only pays attention to me just before he wants to get intimate. I am sick and tired of been lonely in this marriage. I have given my all, I am a good wife and mother. I have reached a point of not reaching out anymore. I do worry for the consequences of our marriage totally firing once I act the way he does too bu it’s exhausting from my end. Anyone else going through this. Divorce isn’t an option yet as the kids are young and it’s highly impractical to be a single mum for me. What to do, to survive this marriage?

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