Cry it out method

I know this method appeals to a lot of parents but I couldn't do it at all. If a baby cries I'd go in. Having said that, I'll admit I'm really not in a position to be giving advice. My eldest who's 4 sometimes still needs a parent at night. I just think they're still so small 4 years or 9 months. What'sso wrong with needing a parent and them being there? But Do I get my sleep? No.

i don’t want to come across rude or anything but the cry it out method is so outdated it goes against natural instinct that you’re clearly showing to want to go in and comfort them. babies don’t need “trained” they are still so little and need the comfort from their parents it’s their way of feeling safe. they don’t need to be sleeping through the night at this age. when they stop the crying it’s actually because they’ve learned that even if i cry no one is coming to comfort me so i won’t bother 🥲 i don’t know when we as a society became so obsessed over babies sleep. if you want to go in and sooth your baby you go do that mumma

I completely agree with the other comments. If you need to go in and soothe your baby, you should go. The cry it out method is so outdated (I don’t mean to come across rude) and is so harmful and impactful to their growing development and attachment to you 💔 someone has mentioned above how it reinforces that no one is coming for them and that is absolutely true, and when they are so little this is not something that needs to be instilled in them. It is completely normal for babies and young children to not sleep through the night and to wake regularly for feeds, especially breast fed babies as milk digests quicker than bottle fed. You know your baby and what’s right and if your know your baby needs you go in and soothe them. They have all their life to learn how to sleep independently and they will do that when their developmentally ready, and right now their not. An hour and a half is way too long for a baby to be left crying, sorry to say. Hope you’re ok mama! 💜

I’m going to be a totally different commenter.

We do the Ferber method occasionally. Although my son is a character and just giggles in his cot… rarely properly cries.

We do timed check in’s which takes away the need for a baby to cry and panic no one is coming. We do 3, 6, 8, 10, 12 and stick to 12 if we reach that check in. If he actually properly cries, we give him a couple of minutes, if he doesn’t settle, we’ll go in and say night night and give his dummy or pat his chest. But to be honest by check in 3 (8 minutes) he’s fast asleep. 💤

The cry it out method has been proven to be harmful for babies and is so outdated. Personally I could never leave my baby to cry it out. Research shows that using the cry it out method impairs their self regulation and has long term affects on kids as they grow up and can even be considered need neglect.
At thjs age it is completely normal for our babies to cry and not sleep through the night, waking for feeds and for comfort.
Eventually they wil learn to sleep independently but right now they will wake and that’s okay.

I wouldn’t be leaving my baby to cry it out and certainly not for that long before intervention. I think you need to have a word with your partner and tell him that it’s not acceptable and very outdated method! What’s wrong with a baby wanting some comfort?! They cry for a reason, this is near on neglect leaving him for that long. Obviously your partner didn’t have love when he was young

I wouldn’t full stop. I go to her immediately.