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Basically I have a 5 year old son and I'm having a little girl in October but unfortunately I don't have my son living with me and my unborn daughter can't come home either it's because of domestic violence records cohesive behaviour physical and mental abuse from him and hes always yelling at me saying it's my fault because I was in care and I'm on methadone it's killing me inside

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Wait so your partner is the abuser and reason your child can’t live with you? Why are you still with him?

Hunny I’m really sorry you’re in this situation, but if your partner is the reason you can’t have your kids with you then clearly he needs to go. That may sound harsh but it’s really simple, choose your kids. Also if you’re on methodone are you recovering? I’m sure that plays a part, but clearly you are trying to make better choices, but take it from me, as someone whose mother chose men, kick the guy and focus on your babies. No man should be the reason to be without our kids.

Hey hun ! I know what your saying, I’m clean now but I’m hear for you and I’m a blunt person so here it is …. It’s truly a black and white situation …. Stay with the man and lose your kids or leave the man and have your kids …. U have to choose
Because both will not happen.
… I know this makes it sound easy but I was like which one was I ok with … having my man and none of my babies or the other way around …. I’ll tell you the truth as well if their is an abuser in the home you ain’t getting your kids and if you start using again ,same thing . No man and no drugs ….then the world is your oyster …
You know the answer inside .

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So my partner and I aren't that well off financially. We vave a 19 month old and I'm 30 weeks pregnant. We wanted to move to a 2 bed flat before baby comes but it seems we can't afford it comfortably.

Is it unrealistic to change our 1 bed flat to a 2 bed, where we'd change the front room slightly for my partner, me and the newborn to sleep so that my toddler can have his own room. I'm also weary of my son having to get used to being in his own room before baby comes, so us staying where we are would enable him time for that.

Or, do we push for another flat that's bigger and more expensive and scrape by?

What are your thoughts?

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I pump very regularly (after every breast feed to top my girl up because she gets so sleepy on the boob & doesn’t get a chance to drink the fatty milk, this was causing weight issues so was advised to do this by the feeding clinic). I’ve never had the chance to build a stash because she obviously drinks it all as soon as it’s pumped. I’d love to be able to produce more, the only advice I’ve seen is to pump & feed regularly & stay hydrated which I already do x

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I’m so terrified.. what do I do? Help😭

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