Opinions needed!
So my partner and I aren't that well off financially. We vave a 19 month old and I'm 30 weeks pregnant. We wanted to move to a 2 bed flat before baby comes but it seems we can't afford it comfortably.
Is it unrealistic to change our 1 bed flat to a 2 bed, where we'd change the front room slightly for my partner, me and the newborn to sleep so that my toddler can have his own room. I'm also weary of my son having to get used to being in his own room before baby comes, so us staying where we are would enable him time for that.
Or, do we push for another flat that's bigger and more expensive and scrape by?
What are your thoughts?
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Stay where you are until you can happily move to some where bigger and live comfortably rather than scraping by. Try to make the change fun for your toddler.
If you are in private renting then have you tried contacting your council for overcrowding? Or thought about Universal Credit, we get £900 towards our £1,300 rent because we don’t earn a lot, I was the main earner until maternity leave and my partner can only work with limited capability due to health conditions and financially wouldn’t be able to afford this place while I was on maternity leave. They might put you on a list but you won’t be priority for council help but universal credit may help more until then x
I live in london and struggling to move out with my partner as it is, we are looking at moving outside of the m25 its going to be the only way we might have a chance. Council wont help especially until baby is born unless I go down as homeless its ridiculous.
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Breastfeeding
Pros:
- Better for baby
- Don't have to pay for formula
Cons:
- I'm probably gonna get touched out
- Worries, what if I don't produce enough, latching etc
- I want my partner to be able to handle feeds too
- I'll be going back to work after 9m
Formula
Pros:
- Already know what I'm doing
- Dad can do feeds
- Feel like this will be easier when baby starts nursery at 9m but don't know.
Cons
- More expense
Also please give me more pros/cons for both as that might help me make a decision 😅
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Opinions needed!
So my partner and I aren't that well off financially. We vave a 19 month old and I'm 30 weeks pregnant. We wanted to move to a 2 bed flat before baby comes but it seems we can't afford it comfortably.
Is it unrealistic to change our 1 bed flat to a 2 bed, where we'd change the front room slightly for my partner, me and the newborn to sleep so that my toddler can have his own room. I'm also weary of my son having to get used to being in his own room before baby comes, so us staying where we are would enable him time for that.
Or, do we push for another flat that's bigger and more expensive and scrape by?
What are your thoughts?
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Nursery/breastfeeding/CMPA
My daughter has dairy and egg allergies so for nursery I’ve been pumping and sending that with her, I’m still happy to breastfeed her to sleep at night and when she wakes up in the morning, and even for naps when we’re both home all day together but I HATE pumping. Do I actually need to be sending her with breast milk or do I have alternatives or is she just okay without it at all? For reference she’s JUST turned 12 months so not sure if that changes anything - thank you so much in advance for advice I am STRESSED x
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