Would appreciate some opinions on this nursery situation.
Was I rude ? Or was the nursery staff member rude?
My 3-year-old came home from nursery on Friday with a red bump behind her ear. When I asked what happened, she told me that another boy hit her with a toy car and also hit her on her back.
I messaged the nursery and said:
“Also just wanted to say that when my daughter came home from nursery on Friday, I noticed she had a bump behind her ear and was red. I asked her what happened, and she said another boy hit her with a toy car and also hit her on her back.
I appreciate that children can have accidents in nursery and it’s impossible to eliminate everything, but I was concerned as it was on her head.
I would also appreciate if you could supervise their interactions a little more closely, particularly given the previous concerns we discussed about my daughter feeling uncomfortable around the same child and the child being rough with her before the summer break.
I know children will have disagreements and accidents, but would like to make sure my daughter feels safe and that any incidents are picked up and communicated to me.”
The teacher replied:
“OK mum I was with her for most of the day on Friday and not once did her and the other child be near each other.”
How would you interpret the nursery’s response? Do you think the teacher is simply saying that she personally didn’t witness them together, or does it come across as dismissing what my daughter told me? And was my original message reasonable, or did I come across as accusing the nursery/child?
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“I didn’t ask if you were there nor did I ask if you believe it was him who did it or not. there is physical proof that something happened to her and I don’t find it a coincidence that his name was involved seeming as they’ve had issues before. I’m simply asking for more precautions to be put in place moving forward, please let me know if you can respect these concerns or not. I would hate to have to change nurseries.”
Is something I’d say🤷♀️
it sounds to me like the nursery teachers saying “your daughters lying I was there”
So what then, the bump came out of thin air? 🤨
I accidentally pressed “you’re rude”.
I don’t think you were rude at all.
The nursery staff definitely could’ve been more thorough in their response. I’d personally talk to them or the director in person if possible to make sure you’re on the same page!
Crazy thing! I mixed up the days, just realised when I looked at the photo. It was actually Thursday… she didn’t go in on Friday. But she replied saying Friday
There should have been an accident report, even if a practitioner didn't see it,surely your daughter went up and said her head hurt?
I'd have probably rung and spoken to someone or asked about it at next drop-off.
I completely get it your child was injured and it's awful and it should have been handled better. They're response was quite abrupt
Wow, I find them rude cause u found out through ur child, is funny yesterday my girl had a incident. No one hit her only that she and her friend were running and they ran into each other, they contacted me right away, and were happy to answer all of my questions. They even told me where they got hurt on the cheek. I was so worried. But I feel relaxed cause they kept updating me. Even afther I picked her up they told me of it and did do a incident report. My girl had no red mark, and she just wanted to continue to play. I honestly don't feel at ease with how they handled it.
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when I come back home i only get 2 hours sleep and I have to look after her because she hasn’t started nursery, make food and so on. My partner is just annoying and doesn’t help even when he’s currently not working right now. I still have to do everything for her.. and then I’m so tired and don’t feel like going out for a walk or any play gym.
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Would appreciate some opinions on this nursery situation.
Was I rude ? Or was the nursery staff member rude?
My 3-year-old came home from nursery on Friday with a red bump behind her ear. When I asked what happened, she told me that another boy hit her with a toy car and also hit her on her back.
I messaged the nursery and said:
“Also just wanted to say that when my daughter came home from nursery on Friday, I noticed she had a bump behind her ear and was red. I asked her what happened, and she said another boy hit her with a toy car and also hit her on her back.
I appreciate that children can have accidents in nursery and it’s impossible to eliminate everything, but I was concerned as it was on her head.
I would also appreciate if you could supervise their interactions a little more closely, particularly given the previous concerns we discussed about my daughter feeling uncomfortable around the same child and the child being rough with her before the summer break.
I know children will have disagreements and accidents, but would like to make sure my daughter feels safe and that any incidents are picked up and communicated to me.”
The teacher replied:
“OK mum I was with her for most of the day on Friday and not once did her and the other child be near each other.”
How would you interpret the nursery’s response? Do you think the teacher is simply saying that she personally didn’t witness them together, or does it come across as dismissing what my daughter told me? And was my original message reasonable, or did I come across as accusing the nursery/child?
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Honestly, I know it’s Christmas but I feel like I don’t actually want to go into other people’s houses or restaurants pubs at all until the baby is at least 6 weeks old. Also, I’m being judgemental but there are some locals in the pub who vaguely know me and partner and would likely come up to see the baby if we bring the pram. Frankly, these people are strangers who spend most of their time smoking and drinking in a pub and I don’t want them anywhere near my newborn in any other setting.
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