How much does partner help you

If you’re a stay at home mom or wife whose kids are in school all day what do you expect husband/partner to
help with if anything? My husband works a lot with his job so I don’t want to be ungrateful but I am genuinely curious to see how spouses break up responsibilities in the household. All my kids are currently in school. I do have a job at night but it’s part time and very easy so it’s not burning me out and I do get to sleep as it’s home health but during the day I mostly have time to myself.

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starting nursery

hi mummas!
my baby is 3 months old, i go back to work in may 2027 so she will be 11 months old. what age did you guys put your babies in nursery? how did your little ones cope with it?

Going out

I feel like a horrible mom, because I know I should take my 20 month old girl out almost everyday but I don’t feel like it at all. Firstly I work night shifts ( 4 nights in a week, some 3 nights back to back, 1 day off and the last night).
when I come back home i only get 2 hours sleep and I have to look after her because she hasn’t started nursery, make food and so on. My partner is just annoying and doesn’t help even when he’s currently not working right now. I still have to do everything for her.. and then I’m so tired and don’t feel like going out for a walk or any play gym.

I don’t know but I feel like I’m doing a bad job and not being a good mom at all.

Weaning

Feeling at a loss. Baby is nearly 7 months and we started weaning at 5.5 months as he gave all the signs. It hasn’t gone well at all and he still is hardly eating any meals unless it’s the pouches (which I don’t want to give him). I’ve also started giving him breakfast in the form of porridge or Weetabix and he just screams in his chair. I don’t know what to do as it just ends in tears for both of us!

Child minder or Nursery

I am looking to start work and I’m not sure which childcare option would work best for my one year old. very clingy at the moment and find it difficult to socialise, so I’m wondering whether a nursery or childminder might be better. I would really appreciate hearing from other parents who have been in a similar situation. What worked best for your little one, and how did they settle?
Any advice or recommendations would be really appreciated!

Christmas season

My first baby is due in mid November and may well be late.
My partner’s family friends have invited us to a pub for lunch on Sunday 6th Dec (baby may be 3-4 weeks old). My partner has provisionally said yes and that we would bring the baby but I am feeling increasingly uneasy about it. Concerns are around me and partner and how tried we will be, how long the pub visit is expected to be & navigating baby feeds and sleep, and also strangers in the pub being infectious (seasonal cold and flu).

Honestly, I know it’s Christmas but I feel like I don’t actually want to go into other people’s houses or restaurants pubs at all until the baby is at least 6 weeks old. Also, I’m being judgemental but there are some locals in the pub who vaguely know me and partner and would likely come up to see the baby if we bring the pram. Frankly, these people are strangers who spend most of their time smoking and drinking in a pub and I don’t want them anywhere near my newborn in any other setting.

Am I being unreasonable, unhinged and hormonal?
I have told my partner that he could go on his own or that we could propose alternatives like those select people coming to our house specifically to see the baby and then could go out to eat/drink if they want.
Partner increasingly keeps saying that I am just letting my anxiety get to me and that the baby is safe etc. But I do think that he is minimising a lot of my concerns and also has unrealistic expectations of just how hard the newborn period will be on us.
Sorry for the vent!!

How do you deal with frustration and CONSTANT GUILT

Hi ladies, I'm looking for some advice. I've tried breathing exercises, tea, loooong walks (I think that's what has helped me the most), I go to the gym whenever I can (2 or 3 times a week), and still I feel like I'm doing it all wrong.
I'm feeling extremely guilty for everything I do, everything I'm not doing, I feel like a terrible mom but I know objectively I'm not. Also I get frustrated so easily, my baby is almost 10mo and teething, and he's not sleeping good, I know nothing is his fault, he's a perfect cute little baby, but I can't help to get frustrated and I just want to cry and pull my hair out.
Sorry for the long rant, I just feel very lonely and have no one who could possibly understand what I'm going through. If you have any advice, or kind words I'm very grateful and happy to read you!