What little things keep you all going?

When my kids were little, i set intentions to enjoy the funny moments, even when it seemed like chaos. I know that’s not for everyone (like my husband who usually just stresses out).

Any positive human connection is good for you right now - if you don’t have a good support network, maybe make friends with a neighbor no matter their age.

It is sooooo tough when you are lacking sleep. If you are fortunate to be home with your son, please please please make sure to rest during the day - without a screen. Try to sleep. That will all catch up with you.

Having a child is absolutely life changing and you don’t get child-free freedom again until they’re adults and even then you’re still their mama. Pick something that brings you joy that your non-negotiable on and let your BF know you NEED, even if he has to contribute more to allow you to do that. Hang in there mama!

Thats the thing. I have a great support network, my partner is amazing at giving me space to have baby free me time and I have a couple of friends in the area, but with all that i'm finding it hard not to think 'why did I have a baby? why did I decide to put myself through this' - i know sleep deprivation has been used as a torture technique and thats not spoken about enough. Its bloody hard.

In terms of things I want to do that am limited/refrained from - like, everything ha. I used to cross stitch from 9am-9pm when I wasnt working and i'm angry I cant do that now but realistically I know I can't.

I am home with son for now, and I actually have a handful of opportunities during the day where I can crochet or do whatever but because i'm burnt out, I just sit there. Good old ADHD task paralysis.

I'm trying to find a job at the moment to work full time again because I think that will help - having a different purpose that is separate from being a mum, an hour lunch break where I can decide what I want to do

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I’m so sorry you’re feeling like this 🥺🤍 I think when you’re running on broken sleep and dealing with PPD/ADHD, it’s really hard to force yourself to appreciate the little things — you’re exhausted, not ungrateful.
Some little things I’ve seen mums enjoy are having a hot coffee while it’s actually hot, getting outside for a little walk, watching a comfort show while baby naps, nice showers, your favourite snacks, fresh bedding and having 10 minutes completely to yourself. Even tiny things count 😂🤍
And please tell your BF how bad things are, especially the drinking yourself to death part. You deserve support with this, not to have to push through it alone. ❤️