Back to work & I’m barely holding it all together
Anyone else feel like they are barely holding it all together??? I just want to scream. How do we work full time (to be honest- more than full time while people gaslight and say we should be able to get it all done within the workday), keep house, and have time to be a mama? I just want to stay home and be a mama, but that is not at all financially possible so how do I manage it all? Does anyone know of any jobs that pay around 75K (yes- willing to take a slight pay cut if needed although finances are tight) that is part time, work from home, or simply clock in clock out? My milk supply is declining because of stress and my mental health is rapidly declining.
For context- I’m in special education administration.
Yes- my husband helps a lot.
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What country are you in as £75k is completely different to $75k.
You aren’t alone in this feeling ❤️ Just letting you know. I hope you find a job that works better for you.
Oh mama. I’m sorry. Things can be tough. Do you work school hours? How old are your littles? Who watched them while you work?
I am a teacher and love the flexibility of my days. I’m done at 2:40 and my sons daycare is open until 5:30. It gives me time to do whatever I need - finish work, workout, grocery shop, walk dogs, clean the house, get my hair/nails done, etc.
I just developed things that help set us up for success for the week:
- grocery delivery is key, Friday night order for Saturday 7am drop off as we all wake up for the day
- meal prep breakfast lunches for the week on Sunday (my son still naps so I do it then), this week was cottage cheese breakfast and a bag salad/a rotisserie chicken haha. It isn’t always fancy or take a long time.
- I plan our meals for the week every Sunday and write on a board. So that my husband knows and can start cooking if he gets home before me
- my husband does the laundry. He does our sons Friday night after he’s gone to bed and our
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I currently live in Kentucky, but I’m definitely open to building friendships with people from all over the world! 🌎 Distance doesn’t bother me.
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If you’re interested in becoming friends, send me a message. I’d love to get to know you! 💕
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We supposed to be in a relationship, however since being pregnant he just doesnt really care, mind you when I found out I was pregnant I was only 7 weeks i am now 19 weeks,he seemed happy and begged me to not terminate it ( I was not doing it regardless) he continues his life like nothing happens doesnt offer to help in any kind of way… we dont live together which i prefer it this way, however he doesnt care at all of how I am feeling or if I need anything ,mind you I am working more hours than a clock and he has not offered to even buy me a meal, if i dont text or call I dont know about him and when I stop doing it he accuses me of ignoring him like be for real 🤦🏽♀️so frustrating… i am really thinking into ending this relationship…
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Back to work & I’m barely holding it all together
Anyone else feel like they are barely holding it all together??? I just want to scream. How do we work full time (to be honest- more than full time while people gaslight and say we should be able to get it all done within the workday), keep house, and have time to be a mama? I just want to stay home and be a mama, but that is not at all financially possible so how do I manage it all? Does anyone know of any jobs that pay around 75K (yes- willing to take a slight pay cut if needed although finances are tight) that is part time, work from home, or simply clock in clock out? My milk supply is declining because of stress and my mental health is rapidly declining.
For context- I’m in special education administration.
Yes- my husband helps a lot.
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Looking for my bestie match. Someone that’ll eventually feel like family. Someone true and down to earth. A friend to my face and behind my back when I’m not in the room. We can FaceTime when we’re comfortable with that, send memes, vent about whatever. I genuinely want someone I can go to when I need someone to talk to and vice versa. I’m not looking for a group chat. Tbh I’ve tried those. I’m in a few right now and I just don’t feel that connection. At least not yet.
~I’m 29 and I have three kiddos. One of my kiddos is a heart warrior so I’m also a medical mama. I live in California, I don’t mind a long distance friendship. I’m almost always with my kids. You can find me doing crafts , watching a tv show, or jamming out to some music. I listen to 90s/early 2000s rap, r&b, country etc. I’m married, I have two dogs and a pineapple green cheek conure 🦜. I’m not really a gamer but I’ve been trying to get into it a little bit since my husband is. I get migraines daily so sometimes if I’m responding in a lag that’s usually why or I’m just busy with my kids. I’m also dealing with mental health and I believe it is important to prioritize that.
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Long story short we used to talk a lot but she doesn’t work and I started working full time so couldn’t keep up with all her messages (she sends essay long texts all the time, multiple 10+ minute long voicenotes, sometimes 50+ pics and vids). My replies slowed down and would reply only when I had time on the weekends or some nights but I couldn’t respond everyday sometimes just once a week.
All of this was communicated multiple times and I apologised multiple times and explained I simply don’t have that much time. Before I started working we would meet up occasionally for a coffee or quick lunch a few times, but ever since my replies slowed she avoided and never acknowledged when I offered to meet.
She then eventually told me she can’t ’get back to the place we used to be’ because she’s hurt and that’s why she can’t meet with me but maybe in the future. Now she’s constantly messaging me HUGE long messages every single day, like essays, always talking about herself and her life and everything she’s up to etc, long voicenotes and pictures etc. I saw her one day and she crossed to the other side of the road when she saw me which I thought was weird. I mentioned again in a voice note about catching up in person one day but she didn’t acknowledge that part.
So this time I deliberate decided to write it plain and simple in a short text that she can’t ignore. I just wanted to know because if she doesn’t ever feel like she can get back to a place to see me (we live close) then why is she constantly texting me all the time and it’s 90% about herself and I’m getting annoyed now.
I cut her response in photo below because it was a long text she sent about herself and her life etc but you can see she only responded shortly before I my question about meeting up and it was vague and obvious she is trying to avoid it. She didn’t say sure, what day? When?
Just to add, there’s nothing going on in her life causing this, she has more free time now than before, she has told me before summer she doesn’t want to meet because she ‘can’t get back to that place with me’, but I don’t understand why she’s going out of her way to message so much
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