Alright I need advice! I havenāt gotten a full night of sleep since my baby boy was born in May. Heās only 4 months old, so I know I shouldnāt expect him to sleep through the night..but Iām just so tired. Lately every time heās been waking up in the night I just nurse him back to sleep, but then I always have to hold him for a minimum of 20 min after a feed before putting him back in his crib. When he wakes up for the last time closest to when weāre up for the morning, Iāve just been having him sleep next to me, he sleeps longer and I count on it to help get more sleep. But online I just hear so many different opinions about baby sleep and āsleep trainingā and idk what to do! I donāt want to create bad habits or sleep associations but thereās no way Iām going to do cry it out. Does anyone have any tips?? Iām a first time mom and have no idea how to help little guy learn to sleep longer.
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Hi, my baby was born may 31, almost 4 months and Iām in the exact same boat. To make things worse even when hubby is home she wonāt go to sleep for anyone else. Hang in there.

Honestly, I think youāre doing fine š¤ At 4 months, waking overnight is still completely normal, and nursing him back to sleep isnāt automatically creating a ābad habit.ā If you donāt want to do CIO, you donāt have to ā you can make gradual changes when youāre ready, like putting him down drowsy, trying a little patting/rocking first and keeping night feeds really boring and dark.
And please donāt feel guilty about wanting more sleep š Youāre exhausted and doing what works right now. Just make sure youāre following safe-sleep guidance, especially if heās ending up in bed with you. š¤

Hey ! Sleep consultant here! This is really hard and just know you're doing amazing. Around this age, babies sleep cycles become more advanced and start to move different sleep stages through the night, they often surface and do a quick environment check, if somethings different than when they fall asleep you they wake. So if your feeding to sleep he will naturally want that back, which is fine there's no reason to change it unless it becomes unsustainable for you, there is sleep training but there are also other ways to get your baby to sleep longer stretched through the night too without sleep training ā¤ļø it's whatever suits your parenting style and babies temperament ! Xxxx

Literally same boat. You at least are not alone lol.

bedsharing was an absolute lifesaver for us š«¶š½
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