4 months of interrupted sleep 🫩

Alright I need advice! I haven’t gotten a full night of sleep since my baby boy was born in May. He’s only 4 months old, so I know I shouldn’t expect him to sleep through the night..but I’m just so tired. Lately every time he’s been waking up in the night I just nurse him back to sleep, but then I always have to hold him for a minimum of 20 min after a feed before putting him back in his crib. When he wakes up for the last time closest to when we’re up for the morning, I’ve just been having him sleep next to me, he sleeps longer and I count on it to help get more sleep. But online I just hear so many different opinions about baby sleep and ā€œsleep trainingā€ and idk what to do! I don’t want to create bad habits or sleep associations but there’s no way I’m going to do cry it out. Does anyone have any tips?? I’m a first time mom and have no idea how to help little guy learn to sleep longer.

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Hi, my baby was born may 31, almost 4 months and I’m in the exact same boat. To make things worse even when hubby is home she won’t go to sleep for anyone else. Hang in there.

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Honestly, I think you’re doing fine šŸ¤ At 4 months, waking overnight is still completely normal, and nursing him back to sleep isn’t automatically creating a ā€œbad habit.ā€ If you don’t want to do CIO, you don’t have to — you can make gradual changes when you’re ready, like putting him down drowsy, trying a little patting/rocking first and keeping night feeds really boring and dark.
And please don’t feel guilty about wanting more sleep šŸ˜‚ You’re exhausted and doing what works right now. Just make sure you’re following safe-sleep guidance, especially if he’s ending up in bed with you. šŸ¤

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Hey ! Sleep consultant here! This is really hard and just know you're doing amazing. Around this age, babies sleep cycles become more advanced and start to move different sleep stages through the night, they often surface and do a quick environment check, if somethings different than when they fall asleep you they wake. So if your feeding to sleep he will naturally want that back, which is fine there's no reason to change it unless it becomes unsustainable for you, there is sleep training but there are also other ways to get your baby to sleep longer stretched through the night too without sleep training ā¤ļø it's whatever suits your parenting style and babies temperament ! Xxxx

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Literally same boat. You at least are not alone lol.

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bedsharing was an absolute lifesaver for us šŸ«¶šŸ½

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