Before I was a mom

I am so happy to be a mom I really am. Today for some reason I woke up missing my old self. Getting my nails done every 3 weeks. My hair done every other month. Going shopping. Buying stuff for myself and just looking good! I didnt let myself go because I look good for having 3 babies but I feel like I dont get dressed up anymore. I haven't done my nails in like 2 Years or my hair either. I just look the same everyday. I wear comfortable clothing because I am just home! Idk if any other moms relate to this. I love my kids and the life I have now but I just miss my old self sometimes 😞

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Completely understand definitely feel like I’ve been trying to find who I am now after becoming a mom. I’ve chopped my hair off and o don’t regret it but it was definitely a drastic change for me

This I feel this so heavily lately. I just miss the old me at time (where I used to go out) now I’m home all the time. No one to talk to (that isn’t a child/babbling).

Is it funds or time holding you back from doing those? For me it was the inconvenience of making an appointment and working around Hubbys schedule so that either baby could be home w him or he has to be there to push the pram around the mall while I did it. So to combat that I watched a bunch of diy tutorials on YT and IG, followed a bunch of accs of girls who also DIY, and started my own stash of supplies of hair stuff, nail stuff, lash stuff. A $20 nail kit lasts me like 2yrs worth of hands and feet always done- all I need is my time. Besides massage and chiro and IPL laser hair removal- I don’t pay for any services yet I look like I spend hundreds on maintenance. It’s also therapeutic for me to do my own nails, it’s my downtime. If you wanted upkeep w less funds perhaps learn it DIY? I go out weekly. If it’s not to see friends it’s a date night, and if I have no other plans my salsa socials are on every Friday so I get dressed up and go dance the night away.

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My manager text me whilst I was on holiday and now I'm worried. Can I go away during maternity leave?

I'm from the UK. I was on full pay for 30 weeks and now on SMP.

Right to buy owners out there?

Anyone bought their house via right to buy- just wondering the pros and cons and any hidden fees. Give me all the advice you got please🙏

I’m stuck

I left my baby daddy in April bc I was a single parent. I did everything for my son while he just went to work and paid his OWN bills and he called it providing. He was even making me pay half the rent and bills too even tho I wasn’t working and caring for baby 24/7. I did nights, cooking, cleaning, playing, bath time EVERYTHING. So he was able to work. But I didn’t get a dime and had to pay him.. and his family is the EXACT same. They said If I stopped paying rent they would take me to court… I honestly started not liking ppl bc of my bd family. They did not value me AT ALL! I was a full time student taking hard classes and raising my son full time. I was up from 6am-1am most days bc I had to.. That’s not right.. BUT my son wants to go back with his dad and me. Im thinking about it bc Raising a child in a single family household comes with so many cons.. more likely to do drugs, act out, etc. idk what to do. I want my son to be happy but I deserve to be happy too… I’m going to nursing school in January and I can’t imagine being with unsupportive ppl while ur trying to build a career. I would crash out

MIL & partner issues

So we’re in the middle of building an annex in the garden for my mil. I’m not really keen on the idea since we don’t have a loving joyful relationship. But I knew if I didn’t go along with it my partner would have resented me a little and we’ve already really struggled in our relationship. Plus I’ve just had a baby with a toddler at home and not in the space to deal with any of it. He’s just told me that if at any point in the future I decide it’s not working he would stay with his mum. And he was dead serious 🧐 THOUGHTS?

Betrayed and Alone

I’m posting anonymously because I feel embarrassed and alone, and I could really use some support from other moms.

I thought I was in a relationship with someone who was only dating me. Then another woman reached out, and I learned he had been involved with her too. They’re no longer together, but I still can’t move past the betrayal.

He asked me to move in with him several times. I tried, but I kept leaving because I never felt emotionally safe with him. Now I’m pregnant, and he still wants to see me and have sex with me, but he hasn’t come to any appointments or really acknowledged our baby.

He says he’s upset that I spoke to the other woman and that I mentioned moving to another state with the baby, where I’d have support. I’m alone where I live now, and I was trying to think about how I could manage.

I feel awful. I keep thinking that if I hadn’t gotten back together with him, I wouldn’t be pregnant and facing this alone. Has anyone else dealt with betrayal during pregnancy? How did you get through it?

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