Am I in the wrong?
We were supposed to be going to my nan’s today for her birthday.
My sister messaged this morning to say her kid was a bit poorly when they woke up this morning so we decided not to go.
Reason being, we don’t like putting our daughter in front of illnesses knowingly because she suffers enough with what she catches from nursery (she’s 25 months). This week all week I’ve avoided going into the office knowing a colleague of mine has been ill. Also
this month we lost over £200 in our pay from unpaid time off because our kid couldn’t go to nursery so we had to stay home with her (who was made sick by their kid because they lied to us and said she didn’t have anything wrong when she had a stomach bug). Our family don’t help us out, not even with babysitting.
Our family are now treating us like the bad guys because we refused to go. They changed their minds about them being poorly after giving their kid medicine which was also after we said we weren’t going.
Were we in the wrong to protect our child and our finances? We’re really struggling because of losing that money in this months pay and I have a car MOT coming soon where I’ve already had to forego the servicing because we can’t afford it. We’ve taken loads of hits in pay that we just can’t afford to do anymore. But also my depression and anxiety have really taken a toll this week so I’m on heightened alert for anything or anyone making my child sick.
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Nah not wrong, would be nice to say you’ll visit separately or arrange another get together when everyone is fit.
But my toddler is constantly sick from nursery so if we cancelled plans when ever he was unwell we’d never do anything, I don’t think your wrong for doing it, but it is limiting for you x
Think of it the other way around - would you be upset and treat someone poorly because they're trying to do what they feel is best for their family? Probably not. Don't worry about people that can't extend the same understanding that you can. Their feelings aren't reality, they're just feelings. It says nothing about you and their character and more about them. Protect your peace ✌️
I think you not going because someone at the party was ill is a fair decision. However it should've been your sister who cancelled and allowed her baby to stay home and rest. I get kids are sick ALOT but if my children are actually ill (not just runny nose) and need medication to feel themselves I wouldn't be taking them out. 🫣
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I guess I’m just curious what everyone does when they’re by themselves with their baby lately. I feel like I’m just getting depressed and I’m not cut out for this. I’m constantly just stressed and tired and also feel guilty that I get frustrated because he’s just a baby he’s also constantly pulling and wanting to stand on me and pinching me all of the time I’m touched out by the end of the day.
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My behavior back then did not carry over into my relationship further. I said goodbye to my past and went into a beautiful relationship of learning, growth and love with my now husband. How do I come back from this especially for our daughter? she doesn’t deserve this, she doesn’t deserve to see me crying everyday and her dad absent in another room. The 3 of us were so close, did everything together now he can’t even look at me. I’m sick.
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Am I in the wrong?
We were supposed to be going to my nan’s today for her birthday.
My sister messaged this morning to say her kid was a bit poorly when they woke up this morning so we decided not to go.
Reason being, we don’t like putting our daughter in front of illnesses knowingly because she suffers enough with what she catches from nursery (she’s 25 months). This week all week I’ve avoided going into the office knowing a colleague of mine has been ill. Also
this month we lost over £200 in our pay from unpaid time off because our kid couldn’t go to nursery so we had to stay home with her (who was made sick by their kid because they lied to us and said she didn’t have anything wrong when she had a stomach bug). Our family don’t help us out, not even with babysitting.
Our family are now treating us like the bad guys because we refused to go. They changed their minds about them being poorly after giving their kid medicine which was also after we said we weren’t going.
Were we in the wrong to protect our child and our finances? We’re really struggling because of losing that money in this months pay and I have a car MOT coming soon where I’ve already had to forego the servicing because we can’t afford it. We’ve taken loads of hits in pay that we just can’t afford to do anymore. But also my depression and anxiety have really taken a toll this week so I’m on heightened alert for anything or anyone making my child sick.
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I have no energy to look after my 16 month old, im constantly having to say no to getting up and playing with her as I feel sick and just want to lay down on the sofa.
Ive recently only started to get help from my MIL after having a conversation with her about not helping. My daughter goes to nursery 1 day a week for 3 hours which is good for her.
I just want to cry everyday and have this pregnancy be over already as ive had enough.
I dont get out the house much as there isnt anything in my area to do and publis transport is unreliable
My partner works long hours so hes gone from 6am til 7pm almost everyday.
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