Anyone else have no village close by???

Feel free to message me , I never had a village my family is 16 hours away , my baby is 10 months and I finally left her dad (for the best) because it was like being a single mom anyway (and other things ) his family also lived close and never helped .

Oh my goodness.. it was like I was reading my own thoughts seeing your post. You are not alone. We just moved to the area and don’t know anyone, my family is across the country. It’s sooo hard! Don’t be too hard on yourself. I’m so good at that. You’re doing great!

I have no village and I understand all your saying

Same. Feel free to text me

You're not alone mama! My husband works overnights as well and I don't think it's given enough credit. It feels like I'm doing this all by myself constantly. I have my family close, but we are on opposite schedules just for existing so I don't have much help either. You can always message me and we can talk! You are doing a fantastic job.

I have no village also and it’s hard, you’re completely valid in your feelings and questions. My husband travels for work, and I have no family, and his family lives far away. It was HARD the first couple times alone with our daughter- but we now have a routine and it’s our time to bond and play and learn. Don’t get me wrong- I LONG for a village, I mourn the fact I don’t have it- and I get really sad thinking about it sometimes- but- I have been trying to really put myself out there on this app, in person, when I’m running errands, or even when I see another mom out even if my daughter isn’t with me and trying to build my own village. It’s hard work, but it makes me feel validated that I’m trying. If you need to talk please message me! I’m down to talk or just listen any time you need someone to hear you. I see you and I know it’s not easy- especially with pets.

You are not alone and just spoke my truth too.! I’ve kinda been alone since 4 DAYS postpartum. My husband is amazing and I love him to pieces and ofc he’d rather be home with us all the time, but his career has him constantly away and traveling :( I never feel seen or heard and have no village. My mom’s family (my cousins & aunts and uncles) live like an hour or so away from me and only
2 have checked in on me postpartum, asked if I need anything or asked to meet my baby. I have a few friends, one that has a 2 yr old already & is busy, one just had a baby a month ago, one way an hour south of me who is due in January and a few out of state friends but they don’t quite get what it’s like.

I feel you on the animal thing. I have two cats and freshly pp and with a newborn it was rough. Constantly meowing and needing something on top of no sleep and baby crying all the time. I had many breakdowns especially the first day I was home alone with her, but it got better for me. I feel u

Omg I’m going through something sooooo similar. 😭😭 I don’t live near family and have no help. My man works 12s and I love love my dogs but I can’t stand them since getting pregnant 😞 I’m so sorry you’re going through all of that. message me! 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼

Hey, you are not alone Mama 🫶 The end of my pregnancy was really hard. My husband is a blue collar worker and military so it was incredibly difficult. Both sides of the family didn’t come to visit, and it was so hard. Unfortunately, this also carried over post birth and it’s been so tough. I will say though … God does NOT give us anything we can’t handle. In some ways, it has made me a stronger person. But, it doesn’t take away how tough it can be. If you want to talk, love, I have some tips on how I got through it. xxoo

I have an 8 month as well and I get overwhelmed too. All my family lives out of state and my husband isn’t always very helpful with the baby, so I understand how frustrating it could be. It sounds like your baby is ahead of all the milestones if he’s already trying to stand, and sometimes that can make it even more challenging, but that just shows how great of a job you’re doing with him that he’s confident to advance his skills so quickly!

You are cut out for this and your baby knows it. You are his favorite person. I’m sure he looks at you like you hung the moon.

I know this is easier said than done, but what has helped me through all the late nights with no sleep and when he’s crying and clingy is that I just think to myself before I know it he’s going be an adult and so I really try to enjoy every moment even if that means leaving my house a mess while I contact nap with him.
You said you have family nearby. Have you reached out to them for help? Or is that not an option?

I have no village near me and you can always send me a message and we can text or call. We can even meet up. It definitely is hard and that's an understatement. It is very isolating when you're by yourself the majority of the day and your baby is too young to have a conversation with you, so you're the only one speaking or you're silent for periods. I try to do something I enjoy during my baby's nap time. It could be reading a book, watching a show, taking a nice bath, a nap, painting, etc. I do try to go out on walks with my baby during the day. Just being outside helps a lot too.

Hey mama! You are doing a great job. I also have a 8 month old and was wondering if it’s too late to have PPD. Mine stems from being in the house allllll day. Lately to catch a break I put baby in her bouncer and put ms.Rachel on. I would lay on the couch with the bouncer in front of it just to rest my body while she’s occupied. I would say try to sleep when he’s napping. Get outside strap him around you and go for a walk. Do activities that can tire him out. When he naps keep it at a hour, when it’s closer to bedtime like two hours away only a quick nap if he’s really tired then tire him out leading to bedtime with activities so he can sleep through the night.

I totally understand how you feel my family is 4.5 hours away. 😕

I feel this! We just moved and now all my friends are way far away. I turned my living room into a baby safe play area so I can at least sit on the couch while baby plays and has free range of the room.

Can you hire a dog walker? Neighbor to hang with the pups? That will help tremendously! It gets easier but that’s one item off the list for the day…