Multi-kid mamas: how/when did you decide to try for a second baby?

Had our first at 36 and now about to give birth to my second at 39. They gonna have exactly 3 years time difference

Awhh.. definitely sounds like you’ve got a lot going on at the minute. I think there’s no set reasoning to it really, as long as you feel ready to go through the pregnancy, you feel good physically and mentally.. you just know when you’re ready.

I had both of mine exactly 2 years apart, and I found myself missing my bump and wanting another when I was 15 months postpartum- especially when I saw my firstborn always playing alone. Having a smaller age gap is harder at the beginning but it definitely gets easier.

I only have one son who is 16 months so take what I have to say with however much weight you want.
We definitely want a second and had planned to start soon. HOWEVER, life happened haha. I've been working on healing some health stuff that came to light when my son turned 1 then we swore we would start trying after all that was sorted out. Im still working through it and frankly wouldn't want to get pregnant until I have a healthy, stable body to carry my next child. Then, my husband got offered a great new job and he starts mid October. So now, we are waiting at least 3 months since he's been at the job (so then he will be eligible for paternity leave when baby is born since he needs to be at that job for a year in our state) and once I'm feeling strong enough to get pregnant again. Once both of those things align, then we know it will be the right time. Im already 35 and my husband is 38 so we know we dont have a lot of time, but we are being realistic with what would be best for our future child

I’m one of 5 and it seemed to work well us being 3 years apart (5th is largest gap with 6 years). My mum found it hard, but coped with first 4 on her own when my dad left when the 4th was a baby. Found we kept each other busy and entertained, allowing her to get things done. Expecting my first and it’s the age gap I’d choose, but only you know when you’re are ready 🙂

I had my daughter at 33 and then just had my son at 36 so they will be a little less than 3 years apart. So far it's been a good age difference! We were able to get my daughter potty trained and got rid of the pacifier before her brother was born

I found out I was having my 2nd when my daughter was still 2, honestly I wasn’t very happy about it. she also had a speech delay I was working full time at the time I had just started to feel like myself again and like we were finally getting a handle on life when I found out I was expecting. When he was born she had just turned 3 it has been a little harder she is still small and needed attention and babies use up a lot of attention so we have had more tantrums and large emotions showing up and I don’t have the same energy to deal with them. There’s a lot of mom guilt going around. And if I’m honest he gets a little bullied from time to time by her. But he is the sweetest most smiley baby and makes friends wherever her goes. He brightens any room and I love being his mom. They are now at a point where they can kinda play together and it’s starting to feel like we have a new rhythm to life. Wouldn’t change it. Although I do feel like a 4 year age gap might be easier than a 3 year.