Doula or learn online?

Has anyone considered having a doula to support their birth? Or has there been any classes you’ve attended or things you may have watched and practiced that has made/is making you more confident about giving birth.
I’m trying to decide whether to go with one, it’s quite expensive and the downside of that my mum would no longer be allowed in the birth suite as can only have 2 birth partners. The positive side is that she knows what’s she’s doing and was recommended by someone I know.

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We just did the usual NHS antenatal classes, gave us the tools we needed, also did an online hypnobirthing course. Personally don’t think a doula would’ve added to my experience so it’s a bit of a “you know you best” as to whether you think it would be beneficial x

It depends on what youre trying to achieve. If youre happy to go with whatever the midwives recommend and possibly not have continuity of care then youll be fine. I had a homebirth and honestly dont think it would have been possible without my doula

hi 👋 I was thinking to get it but then we couldn't afford it so I just went with my reaserch and some online courses about home birth so I did and it was amazing 🤩 If I have a choice I would hire a personal chef for few days lol 😂

if u need anything text me :) I know so much about birth now 🥰

NCT and the positive birth book by milly hill

https://www.theempoweredbirth.com/

I personally did this onebut there are few more reserches i did even after taking this one, things like Hey! Just wanted to share, I did a bit more research in my free time on something called lotus birth. It’s basically where you don’t cut the umbilical cord at all after delivery, and you leave the placenta attached until the cord naturally separates on its own. Thought it was really interesting

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