Discipline

I’m not a professional, but being a little one is hard! There’s a lot of things going on she isn’t fully grasping.
I would try to sympathize her big emotions (not specifically why they’re happening) and stay teaching her how to handle big feelings, and most importantly leading by example.

I would get “popped” when I was a kid over anything.. made me really insecure and not able to process emotions easily, I would advise against it.

I think it’s always important to remember, they aren’t giving you a hard time, they’re having a hard time. They’re not being difficult, life is difficult! It’s our job as parents to help them learn how to feel their feelings well, not just to not have the feelings! Otherwise, if we teach them that these feelings are bad or punishable, then we’re gonna have kids,and ultimately adults, who don’t know how to feel their feelings well and in a healthy way, so they either bottle them up and shut down, or they lash out and explode. The best thing you can do is take a deep breath and help your little one learn how to communicate effectively. All feelings are valid, not all behaviors are. So we have to give them the tools to be able to communicate their feelings effectively and show them what behaviors are acceptable!

Edit: would also recommend Good Inside by Dr. Becky Kennedy for parenting, and Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Dr. Lindsey Gibson for processing your own stuff!

When mine are having a full on the floor tantrum I just say to them I can see that you’re really upset and angry, I’m here for a cuddle when you’re ready. And then sit on the floor nearby. (Unless they’re in a dangerous place obviously 😂). As they’ve gotten bigger (mine are 4 and 2), I ask them when they’ve calmed down what their feeling was - was it cross, sad, scared, angry, and what made them feel like that.

I always think - I imagine if I was really pissed about something and having a rant or a cry - which is what they’re doing but with limited emotional comprehension) and instead of someone listening and saying - yeah that sounds really rubbish / tough / scary - they slapped me and told me to stop being cross. It wouldn’t help me stop being cross. But it would mean I didn’t go to that person again when I was having a problem.