Sexless Marriage

My husband told me today that he just feels ‘meh’ about me, that he is not sexually attracted to me anymore. He feels like he’s just ‘waiting for death’ and he has no pleasure anymore. For context, he has anxiety and depressive episodes, he’s taking medication but still suffers. We have not had sex since before our baby was born (over a year ago). I’ve been co-sleeping with baby and hubby has been sleeping in another room. This arrangement has been the one that gets all of us the best sleep.
Baby won’t sleep in a crib alone and I still breastfeed her to sleep.
None of us want to do sleep training.
I have asked hubby if he will do marriage counselling but he doesn’t want to speak to someone else about our problems.
I feel that we need to ask for help because nothing seems to be changing after we talk about these things.
Personally, I have not been missing sex as I have zero libido since giving birth and I’m busy with baby so not having much mental space for that. I feel a bit helpless as to what to do now. What do I do with the info hubs has given me?
How can I make our relationship better?

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Need to talk to someone help 😭

I just kicked out my husband for the last time found out his still talking to some one it’s awful crying this late with ur one year old next to u

Anger over husband going on work trip

So for context we have a 6mo and a 2.5 year old, my husband has gone to Prague for 2 nights on a business trip. I can’t help but feel a rage inside me when I’m having a hard time putting the kids to bed and I can see he’s out having a nice dinner and having drinks at bars. I suppose I am maybe abit jealous that he gets to do these things, it causes arguments. Is it normal I feel like this?

I can’t apologize

Anytime my husband is angry at me , he uses words like fool, stupid, I regret marrying u etc . Even when I’m wrong I can’t apologize cos I get hurt and he in turn gets mad that I don’t take accountability. For context 90% of our Arguments is about the house being tidy.

Coincidence or Retaliation? My MIL Is the CEO and I Just Got Demoted

My MIL is a bitch😂 sorry, just had to start off with that. Okay, now that I got that out 😂 let me give y’all the backstory because I genuinely need to know if I’m being dramatic or if this is as fucked up as it feels.

My MIL is the CEO of the company I work for. My husband also works there, he’s a Coordinator, and I was working as an Administrative Assistant/Peer Support Specialist. My husband and his mom have not been on speaking terms since July. I’m not going to dump the entire family tree on y’all 😂. Just know things between them have been BAD. We were also supposed to go to Thailand with her, but because of the issues between her and my husband, that trip basically got taken away from us. She went without us and came back literally ONE DAY before our gender reveal. She was not invited.

Now, before anybody says, “Well, that’s her son’s mom, how could you not invite her?” there is a LOT more to that situation, and at this point, my husband and I decided we were not going to pretend everything was fine just because it was a family event. We did invite some of our coworkers, though. Fast forward to Tuesday. I get called in and told that I’m being demoted. The reason I was given?

Budget cuts.

Okay… sucks, but whatever. I’m trying to be an adult about it. I’m pregnant, I have bills, and obviously getting demoted is stressful, but if the company is cutting the budget, then I can at least understand that it’s a business decision.

Except…

My husband and like 7 other ppl at the company got promoted the same week!! And then I was supposed to work until Friday in the office, but she sends another coworker of mine to tell me that she wants me gone the same day so my co worker can move in my space. How unprofessional!! Eventually my husband talked to his mom, and suddenly there were apparently MULTIPLE reasons for my demotion that had nothing to do with budget cuts. She allegedly told him that I had said I couldn’t lift certain items because I’m pregnant. NEVER SAID THAT! She brought up paperwork that supposedly wasn’t turned in. NEVER DID THAT! And then there was a customer complaint over the phone. BUT WAS CONFIRMED TO NOT BE ME! It was another employee.

Honestly, the part that bothers me the most isn’t even the demotion itself. It’s the possibility that something personal happening between my husband and his mother could have crossed over into my job. Because if you don’t like your son right now, that’s between y’all. If you’re mad that your son’s wife didn’t invite you to her gender reveal, okay. But my paycheck??? LEAVE MY PAYCHECK OUT OF IT. 😂

Am I being petty

I swear I've woken up on the wrong side of the bed which doesn't help this scenario.
But am I being petty for being severely pissed off at my partner.
He puts the bottles on the steriliser. Didn't fill up or put the kettle on. Didn't fill the power pots ready.
Asked him to shut the blinds in my eldest room as you could see right in. Come back from shop they were still open.
Hasn't loaded in dishwasher in over a week.

I literally been feeling like a single mother these days. Like I know he is working more than usual but cumon he was already half prepping the bottles.

Potty training tips!!

We’ve been potty training our nearly 3 year old since the beginning of September and I honestly thought we would have been finished by now 😂

He’s fine with going in the house now but he will only go in his little potty that sits in the living room, he won’t go on the actual toilet. He goes himself most of the time but we do still have to ask him sometimes and I feel like he holds his wees in for hours sometimes. He’s is completely fine with poos though.

The problem is he’s naked from the waist down in the house. If we put anything on him he just thinks he can wee in it 😂 pants, trousers, pyjamas etc he just doesn’t seem to understand that he still needs to use the potty. He also doesn’t really care if he’s wet so I don’t know how to get him past that.

I’ve got no idea what to do when we go out either, I offer to take him to the toilet but he never goes so I just end up putting a nappy on him to go out for an easier life.

He starts nursery next week and I’m starting to panic a bit 😭 Has anyone else had a toddler like this and how did you get them to the next stage?

Any tips would be appreciated xx