Is the normal?
My partner constantly games or is asleep I haven’t wanted to be intimate for a bit and he got mad and wouldn’t even be in the same bed as me. I feel like I’m in this alone what should I do? I try and bring it up but then
He get angry or upset and walks out or argues so I get stressed I’m 8-9 weeks x just need to know what I should do I love him but idk what’s the best. I feel like hes emotionally check out and idk what to do to make him realize.
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It’s not normal. If you don’t want to be intimate and are refusing advances and he has a problem with it, then he’s a problem. When I first got pregnant I felt so sick that even slightly moving in bed got me very nauseous, and I refused my husband for almost two months because of it. He understood and didn’t pressure me, but he did resort to playing his game and doing other things instead. The fact that your partner constantly games or is sleeping is insane, because to me that seems like he doesn’t want to spend any time with you unless yall are being intimate. I would have a full conversation with him about this and the way it makes you feel, and his attitude towards that conversation will tell you a lot about the person that he is and if you need to leave or not. Hope things get better for you babes 🫶🏻
Take it from someone that put up with excessive gaming for 3.5 years, I always hoped it would get better.... it did for short periods after much negotiation but then defaulted back. I fell pregnant he promised things would be different and then he abandoned me at 15 weeks pregnant after havimg arguments as I asked him to do more in the house due to being extremely tired in the first trimester . He since has spent most weekends fishing (another hobby he prioritised) and gaming every night through the week as usual whilst not checking in on me or supporting me.
If I was you I would move back to be closer to your family and only then will you realise if hes truly ready to step up. Sorry you are going through this. Im 32 weeks pregnant now and only just starting to come to terms about the family I thought we was going to be is not going to happen.
Nobody should feel like they are second best to a games console I hope things get better for you x
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