Violence at nursery

My daughter is in preschool and there is a boy who is consistently hurting her and the other children. He's 4. Despite multiple parents complaining, the nursery just say they do consequences and strategies like putting him in other rooms, if violent, but are refusing to describe what the longer term consequences might be.

It's making her scared to go to nursery every day and she has another year left.

Has anyone had a similar situation and what steps did you take?

I should clarify, this is a private nursery, not attached to a school.

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Ask to speak to the manager and have a meeting about how they are going to handle this going forward. It should be easy for the staff to keep the 2 of them separated as much as possible.

My daughter kept on being hit by a child when she was at private nursery. I did the above, it was resolved almost immediately. The other child I suspect had SN, and he moved onto targeting someone else’s child from what I used to overhear waiting in the pick-up line.

It sounds like he has unmet needs which they are struggling to anticipate proactively rather than just responding afterwards. Consequences won't be effective or appropriate if he has SEND. Can you speak to the manager about it and raise concerns formally through the lens of aafeguarding both him and the other children?

You can file a report with licensing and have them investigate there should only be so many allotted times of violence before they're asked to leave. I have worked in facilities with that age group it's extremely hard because unfortunately what directors and managers care about are the money and the enrollments instead of other children safety.

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