No Contact with Family

I’m 3 years no contact with my immediate family and wondering if you ever get to a point of just not caring anymore?
There’s nothing that would cause me to rekindle contact with them, but some days you just need your mum, but not your mum.. if that makes any sense 🫣

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That makes so much sense. Hope you have enough support elsewhere x

Yeah I’m like this with my bio dad

Been on and off contact with my bio dad from 13-19 then no contact. saw him once when I was 21, I’m 25 now and have personally finally gotten over not having those feelings. My father in law is amazing and is such a loving grandpa there is finally no need to have those feelings. When i need my dad i call him because i know he will be there and has the last 6 years more than my bio father ever has. It’s been so healing having him in my life, knowing he loves being my dad and by choice not because he has to.

Same here. I didn’t even tell them that I had my baby because I feel like they’ll try to sneak their way back in my life again. I’m regret that I even let them around my other babies.
Also any older people just reminds me of my mom so I don’t like old people now lol or someone older than me which reminds me of my sis

I haven't talked to my siblings in almost 7 years. I tried once with my sister but to no avail, she was just as toxic as ever. I dont miss them I dont really care to let our kids know each other, my kids have wonderful cousins they will grow up around on my dad's side of the family. My sister definitely doesnt feel the same way as I do, she tries so hard to meddle in my life to the best of her abilities. Luckily everyone in my life has no affiliation with her except our mom which I keep at arms length/low contact.

Been no contact with my bio dad for 11 years, and limited contact with my bio mom for 3 years. I’m still struggling with loosing those relationships but not the person if that makes sense.

It hasn’t gotten better or easier with time. I’m in therapy and processing the losses in a healthy way.

Making new connections is helping heal me a lot.

Yep that’s how I am with my bio dad . I’ve been at peace for yrs

I’m six years into no contact with my family too. I’m much more at peace now but I wasn’t 3 years ago if that’s any consolation x

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