ex friend?

just want to vent- not in need of advice but like comments are fun, put yourself in my shoes and see how you would feel. lets talk

long story short short, but this girl and i used to be friends like besties in highschool and we stopped talking because she didnt like my bf at the time and we reconnected when we were both pregnant, i reached out to her and became friends again since we both had babies at the same time pretty much! so it was so fun, we slowly started doing baby classes weekly together and she came over to my house outside of the city every week, it was fun and she loved where i lived ( the country) so i helped her find a place to live by me, i can see her house from mine. before she moved we were counting down days and said it was going to be the best summer ever- all these plans, beach all the time. I helped her with everything, helped her pack her house up, gave her boxs, gave her house warming gifts, offered her everything i even mopped her floor and organized -anything she needed help with - bought us meals i even gave her gas money when she was struggling. i gave her so many expensive things, i just like being kind and a good friend. once she moved in the house, she never came over or made plans, slowly stopped talking to me, i offered to hangout with her go on walks but she said baby was sleeping. anyways i basically got a bad vibe and stopped asking her to hang out, and she never texted me or asked me to hang out. so thats it, pretty much just was a one sided friendship and i guess she didnt value it so it fizzled out… so sad because i see her sometimes and wonder like? maybe she is jealous of me and maybe she just felt like taking advantage of my kindness and took it for weakness and thought she was better than me? like, being treated well by me doesn’t mean you’re above me. it means i treated you well.
anyways, so weird, i guess i will just continue not to talk to her because she obviously doesnt value our friendship and i will never be the one to chase anything, there will be those people in your life who are there for a season. im just confused mostly- there is more to the story just bits of things where she just proved to not really be a good friend

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In your shoes, I would wait until the sore feelings (which are fully justified) to pass. Some people lose themselves and as a result, their relationships after they have a baby. And maybe the guilt of that stops her from reaching out. I'm not saying that what she's done is right, but maybe there's a reason for it. I would try reaching out again in a few months, and just ask her how she's doing. Based on how that goes, I feel like you can then make a decision about the relationship you have (or don't have) with her from that point

My very first thought was that she could have postpartum depression.

My first thought was "this sucks. I wonder if she had such bad post partum?" Im reading how much you extended yourself and how much you helped her and thats amazing ..and maybe you did thay because she needed that...? And maybe she fell further into ppd and now so much time passed she doesn't know how to reach out? Im not sure. If the friendship meant something to me, id just reach out. Explain that I gave the soace because my texts were going ignored and I didnt want to push for a friendship if thats not what was wanted or if she just didnt have the capacity but that I hope she has been doing okay and if there was anything she felt happened between us id appreciate her being able to talk to me about it.

i thought she had postpartum depression too but she found a new friend that she hangs out with regularly and posts on instagram with so idk maybe she doesnt know how to reach out youre right, in wondering there must be more to it lol because all it takes is asking me to go for a walk n talk at our big age in not a difficult person to talk to

when do you think i should reach out to ask how she’s doing? its been two months since the last time we talked i asked her to hang out , considering the whole summer went by and all the plans were made, didnt happen

id hope at our age she would be able to tell me why she stopped talking to me and what happened she just ghosted pretty much and its weird because shes my neighbour lol

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