Toddler cousins
Hi! My baby has 3 month old and my cousin toddlers (2 and 6) that go to nursery. He has seen them twice. They are soon to throw some bday parties and I don’t feel comfortable to meet and mingle because of diseases. Moreover the parents don’t have so much control over them and they tend to do whatever they want. However my husband have a different on this as it is brother’ kids. They have been the best aunties but just wondering if you have an advice to juggle this situation.
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I personally have been keeping the baby away from all the toddlers in our environment. They are not allowed to hold her etc, but can look and chat to her. But I am a nervous FTM and she hasnt yet had all vaccines...
Our friends that have toddlers all know that they are little germ machines, so they all understand. If you communicate I hope that the aunties will also understand! Good luck x
It's a tough one. I remember with my first I kept him away from all toddlers, even majority of adults, until he had his vaccines and was older.
Second time round it's near impossible to keep him away from germs as I have a 3.5 year old that's in nursery and most of our day is governed by his schedule so can't escape it.
Best practical advice is to keep baby in their buggy if you can? Wrap a blanket over them and just set your boundaries with everyone. No touching the baby.
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