resentment
My husband and I have been together for 5 years with two kiddos.
He has become way too comfortable with everything. During our entire relationship he has cheated on me here and there on dating sites and I always found out. No dates since we had our firstborn 3 years ago. When I tell him, he uses the fact that we can’t put the kids anywhere since we’re not so good with both of our fams. It has never been about the kids or money, it’s about taking initiative. Every weekend he asks me what we should do. I honestly just taught him that I will stay no matter what and I don’t want that anymore. I want to step up for myself. I’ve come to a point where even if he starts doing better for a day or two, I resent him so much that I also just stop putting work into the relationship, he realizes that and goes back to his old ways. I’m tired of this game we’re playing. Everything feels forced. Every interaction. Every progress feels forced from both sides. I know we love each other so much but love does not matter when there is no respect. I don’t know what to do. I don’t wanna do this to my children, but being with him drains the life out of me to a point where I can’t even take care of myself. He doesn’t see that I’m losing myself, and what he doesn’t see at all is that he’s losing me.
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Run. Go find the man that will respect you and love you like you should be loved.
I’m sorry for being brutally honest, but I agree with Jess — LIVE, and don’t look back.
I was with my husband for 18years, married from 14years and I finally left three months ago. I felt exactly how you’re describing — the relationship was draining me, and somewhere along the way I was completely losing myself.
I think I had to reach rock bottom before I finally found the strength to make that decision. And even though it’s been incredibly hard, and still is as I do not have a family here, I wouldn’t change it.
I did it for our son, but I also did it for myself. ❤️ Sometimes choosing yourself and your own happiness is the hardest decision you can make, but you only get one life.
^^^ YES, YES, YES.
If he loved you, he wouldn’t cheat🤷🏻♀️
*edit- if he loved you, you wouldn’t be writing this post at all💗
This sounds really difficult to navigate and I’m sorry your going through it. 💕 But ultimately… the best thing you could do for the kids is walk away. Kids learn what they live and if they think this is a normal way to be in a relationship they could potentially accept the same behaviour from someone who says they love them. Would you be happy if they were treated this way? Sending with kindness and hope it works out for you!
This sounds exhausting. I’m so sorry you’re going through this 😩
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My husband and I have been together for 5 years with two kiddos.
He has become way too comfortable with everything. During our entire relationship he has cheated on me here and there on dating sites and I always found out. No dates since we had our firstborn 3 years ago. When I tell him, he uses the fact that we can’t put the kids anywhere since we’re not so good with both of our fams. It has never been about the kids or money, it’s about taking initiative. Every weekend he asks me what we should do. I honestly just taught him that I will stay no matter what and I don’t want that anymore. I want to step up for myself. I’ve come to a point where even if he starts doing better for a day or two, I resent him so much that I also just stop putting work into the relationship, he realizes that and goes back to his old ways. I’m tired of this game we’re playing. Everything feels forced. Every interaction. Every progress feels forced from both sides. I know we love each other so much but love does not matter when there is no respect. I don’t know what to do. I don’t wanna do this to my children, but being with him drains the life out of me to a point where I can’t even take care of myself. He doesn’t see that I’m losing myself, and what he doesn’t see at all is that he’s losing me.
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