Any advice appreciated
I feel like I have failed as a mum, at the moment, my son is quite angry for example, when I pop him in the buggy to make his food ( currently have a grain mites problem so putting him on the floor isn’t a good move, he will mostly be on the floor and playing otherwise) , he’s screaming at me as if he’s in pain(he’s not) until I pick him up, sometimes I put Bluey on to calm him down, but that doesn’t always work, at the moment I’m putting Bluey on at meal times because he is such a wiggle worm he won’t stay still or eat unless it’s on , I wanted to use the gentle parenting approach, but there is last week has been so difficult. He’s been pulling my hair and it feels like means to do it, out of pain I had a go at him and walked away, I felt so bad for shouting since he doesn’t know better , he’s been screaming, He’s been getting angry, He’s been missing one of his naps almost every day, it feels like Bluey is my coparent, speaking of parents his dad is constantly working and doesn’t take care of him for more than half an hour at a time so it’s just me and him.
two days ago I burnt out completely and got sick because of it I called my sister over and she’s been amazing and my dad took him for a walk yesterday whilst I cleaned but the living room is back to how it was before( a big mess) I feel like he’s angry because he’s watching some tv or I won’t let him eat dangerous things, he could also be tired but he won’t go down for his second nap! He’s 1 next Saturday, any advise or literally anything is helpful, could it be this age? He’s learning to clap and stand aswell
This is only a snippet. He is usually a very happy baby!
Thanks for reading lol
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You’re not alone . You’re not a bad mom sometimes it’s impossible to do everything in one day . For example my baby 😖😖😖. In a stage of seperation anxiety ( I’m obviously not a bad mom I obviously did all the right things but sometimes things just happen) the power went off in my home unexpectedly ( Breaker blew ) and mine got a hold of dawn dish soap . Believe me I felt terrible . At the same time the power was off I couldn’t see what he could and couldn’t grab . While in search of flash light to fix the breaker. It was also 5:00 AM 🙁. Tbh I was exhausted caught off guard. Just a gentle reminder to give yourself some grace . I cry every single day . As long as you keep going keep feeding kids. , keep trying get back up that’s all that matters
He is starting to get curious. I remember having to handle my son trying to get into everything at that age and having similar issues (we lived with my mom and he is allergic to cats so he couldn't leave our bedroom most of the day since she had cats in the house.) When we moved and he was able to crawl around he was much happier.
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I feel like I have failed as a mum, at the moment, my son is quite angry for example, when I pop him in the buggy to make his food ( currently have a grain mites problem so putting him on the floor isn’t a good move, he will mostly be on the floor and playing otherwise) , he’s screaming at me as if he’s in pain(he’s not) until I pick him up, sometimes I put Bluey on to calm him down, but that doesn’t always work, at the moment I’m putting Bluey on at meal times because he is such a wiggle worm he won’t stay still or eat unless it’s on , I wanted to use the gentle parenting approach, but there is last week has been so difficult. He’s been pulling my hair and it feels like means to do it, out of pain I had a go at him and walked away, I felt so bad for shouting since he doesn’t know better , he’s been screaming, He’s been getting angry, He’s been missing one of his naps almost every day, it feels like Bluey is my coparent, speaking of parents his dad is constantly working and doesn’t take care of him for more than half an hour at a time so it’s just me and him.
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This is only a snippet. He is usually a very happy baby!
Thanks for reading lol
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