Am I overreacting

Long story short my partner and I only get one day together every week which is a Sunday. He looks after our girl on Mondays while I work and then he is working the rest of the week (long hours and not home until 10.30pm most nights)

Last Sunday he went fishing all day Sunday, last night he sprung it on me he was coming with me today to a party as he’s going fishing again (left 3.30am and said he will be back for 2pm) it’s now almost 4pm and he’s still not back and I’ve not seen him since yesterday morning briefly before he left for work.

Next Sunday he is out again all day fishing with his mate.

At the moment I am extremely run down with a chest infection and just feeling like I’m being pushed to one side. I understand he wants to be able to do his own things too on his day off but I’m starting to lose my patience because I am so exhausted and the thought of waiting 3 more weeks until I can have any sort of ‘rest’ is killing me.

I don’t think he is taking my feelings or needs into consideration but perhaps I am being selfish in wanting a rest? It’s not helping that our girl is so full on at the moment (22 months) who also has a chest infection and going through a sleep regression waking multiple times a night 😩 I am exhausted

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I would have a conversation with him
Maybe fish once a month but this sounds selfish to me

You are not being selfish at all, he is!

And when I said selfish im talking about him

Why can’t he take Yal fishing with him when u feel better instead and prioritize taking care of his family when Yal sick and he’s needed to step up (his responsibility as a partner and dad imo)

Hey girl, you're not being selfish at all. My partner went fishing and was late and never let me know, to the point where I called the cops once to look for him and his friend because I got so scared and out of my mind with overwhelming tasks when he was supposed to be home that day. We had a huge chat about it and he felt awful and he's never done it again, now he'll even invite me and pack me and the kid up to go fishing too. You have every right to speak up about how frustrating this is, regardless that he only has one day off too. He still gets breaks at his job in a day I bet, and you don't. Let alone the fact that he gets to speak to adults all day long and you most likely don't as much.

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