Getting out

Making it my mission this month to try and leave the house more😶‍🌫️ whats your favourite things you do just to get out??

I’m on maternity leave with a 4 month old and I honestly barely ever leave the house🫠 I go to a few free baby groups but have super bad anxiety and my baby doesn’t seem to like them that much so I don’t really talk to people there, and I’m getting bored of walking around the park

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I go for a coffee. It's still lonely but atleast I can get a cuppa and a cake out of it lol

I go to the library too.

And dog walk / walk to the park

Baby groups i hate but it's gets better as they get older

M&S coffee morning if you have one near you! Been going since my LO was a newborn. Best part of our week, a coffee and free cake!! It’s also full of other mums which is lovely to talk to others if you feel up for it or just keep to you and your baby x

I love this for you. I've recently started to do this for myself too :) my favorite most inexpensive thing to do is grab a coffee or something yummy to drink and go sit at the lake and watch the sun go down. It's been so good for my soul and honestly helps my just reset. I'm lucky to be so close to lake Conroe so it's easy for me to find a good spot to sit at. Sometimes I'll go walk aimlessly around target or hobby lobby haha might find a few clearance items which is always a win! Last week I was having a tough few days and I told my husband that he's in charge of dinner and I took myself to eat at this bbq place that I've been wanting to try for a few years now. It was so nice to enjoy a meal uninterrupted 😁💜

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How much do you spend on birthdays / Christmas?

Constant argument with my partner on how much is okay to spend! This year I have spent less but by thrifting have still got a similar amount of pressies for her, which he now says it’s both the cost and the amount of presents that bothers him.

I would say I spend approx £100 (slightly less / more depending). Same for Christmas.

Thanks in advance!

I don’t know if I should stay with my boyfriend

We have been together for coming up 2 years and we have a 5 month old baby girl. He was a great boyfriend and we spent basically every day together and then he had to go back home to live with his parents for a while in Wales and I had to stay in York with mine (personal family reasons on both sides). While we were apart I found out I was pregnant, he was happy, everything good. He would come to the scans and whatnot (as he should) but I had a really lonely pregnancy. Then he got a part time job in Wales and basically just kind of expected me to move there. I did because I didn’t want to be away from him or our daughter. I’m a very social person and he’s not, I’m happiest socialising with my friends and family and have a wide range of friends. He doesn’t speak to anyone but his family who we now live about 10 mins away from. His family are lovely and I get on with them really well but I feel really alone here too. I basically do the whole parenting thing alone. I’m with our daughter 99.9% of the time. He’s made ‘jokes’ saying if I want him to do all the baby stuff he will do it but he would want my maternity pay. I do a lot of meal prepping to make it easier and stress free so all he does is defrost dinner and warm it up and that classes as cooking dinner. He hardly washes up anymore. He drinks 2/3 of a bottle of whiskey most nights. He’s not a bad drunk or anything he just stays downstairs while me and our daughter are upstairs. He’s never done a bath time or a bedtime with our daughter. He has to be asked to do things for the baby and the house. Like have some initiative???!! I understand that relationships are give and take and a huge compromise and that they change after having a baby but I don’t feel appreciated or really wanted. I think he loves me but it’s easy to have me here. He says if we break up he wouldn’t be with anyone else because he couldn’t be bothered to date someone else. We don’t go on dates, no gestures or anything. I just feel like I’m in the way. And I know you’ll say to communicate with him but anytime I’ve tried bringing up moving back to York he makes all my points seem silly and ends up saying “you don’t really want to live in York tho do you?” And laughs at me. I just feel trapped and like I would honestly be happier and more free if I was a single parent because I’m not constantly irritated that he gets his own life and I’m stuck in the house with our baby and no social life. I love him and I want our daughter to have her dad in her life but at what point do I prioritise my happiness? Obviously the ideal situation would be that he changes his behaviour and starts acting in a way that values me and helps more but he prioritises himself over us. Any advice would be lovely💗

Where are you!!!

Looking for some friends/ OR BESTIE to talk to! Long distance is very okay with me ☺️ I’m 28 with one girl and one boy. On my free time I play video games . I try not to be boring and reply fast lol. Let’s message?

Bestie where are you!?!?

Looking for a bestie, hopefully someone close so we can hang out and do target runs and fall things 🥰 someone looking for a genuine friendship only! Not someone who will ghost after a few days! I wanna text regularly, talk on the phone and actually build a real friendship! None this fake bs.
Mama of 2 boys and currently pregnant with another boy!
Married
2 dogs and 5 cats
I love reading
Anything true crime!
Coffee coffee coffee!
I collect phone cases , can’t have too many.
Fall girly at heart
Harry Potter
I have soo many lotions and perfumes , we must smell good over here
Candles!
Shy introvert but once you get to know me I’m a whole weirdo!
Lean conservative but don’t let that deter you I’m sweet and laid back
Church 🙏🏻
Sooo bestie where are you?!?! Let’s text! 😊