How much do you spend on birthdays / Christmas?

Constant argument with my partner on how much is okay to spend! This year I have spent less but by thrifting have still got a similar amount of pressies for her, which he now says it’s both the cost and the amount of presents that bothers him.

I would say I spend approx £100 (slightly less / more depending). Same for Christmas.

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We try and use a rule. Something he wants, something he needs, something to wear and something to read.

This keeps it in check a bit but we try and get things on sale/black friday etc. make use of those things. He’s always getting new toys etc through the year anyway so we just keep the bigger gifts. Like xmas this year he’ll have a balance bike and helmet hopefully which will be a little more money. I think you’ve just got to be sensible but it can be hard when you want them to have everything. 😅

I become a CONSUMER on Christmas lol I can’t stand myself but I love how excited they get for their birthdays and Christmas time. 🙈
I don’t do trending stuff really, we focus on items that will enrich their little lives but they get to make their lists and I just love fulfilling them.

I think I’ve spent about €240 between his birthday and Christmas presents…. I buy them all together and then divide them between the two days, not so much based on cost but based on what I think are a good mix of presents to get

It also helps to spread the cost of Christmas a bit to get his presents early

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