Self settling

I stay with him and stroke and pat his back so he knows I’m still there. Sometimes it settles him, sometimes it makes it worse as he wants me to hold him so best to just leave him and let him settle

It depends on their age. Infants can’t self soothe they don’t even know that they’re a separate person from you until close to a year old

You repeatedly respond to any and all needs until the baby/toddler/child learns to themselves. It can happen at any age and should not ever be trained or taught due to risking attachment in the long run.

We went on holiday for a week and my 7 month old had his naps in the pram whilst out for meals, pool area or days out. I don't think we rocked him once. Then when we got back home he didn't want to be rocked, we just place him down and he falls asleep. I think it's just training and keeping it consistent. X

I don’t 🤷‍♀️ this is largely based on temperament which isn’t something we can control. My youngest will sometimes partially wake up and she tugs on her hair to soothe herself back to sleep. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t, but I always respond when she needs me (she’s 19 months).

My oldest is almost 5 and still comes in our bed every night. He definitely can’t self soothe back to sleep. Obviously I always respond to his needs as well, he just has a very different temperament when it comes to sleep!

Wait until they're old enough to develop the skill themselves. You can't teach it, especially to a young baby

Use the shh/patt method and sitting in a rocking chair to help regulate them and clam down then I’d place baby drowsy in crib and allow them to connect the dots you have to give them space to try.. a little fussing is ok

Currently working with a sleep training consultant and baby is sleeping in crib and self soothing! If you are interested I can send you the link 🔗 for the consult I’m using :)

I stay with my baby until he falls asleep. Sometimes he cries, and I'll just lay my hand on him, and let him cry until he falls asleep, sometimes he will take a binky and that helps him settle. Once he's asleep I can usually go do what I need

You don’t, they develop the skill on their own when they are ready. I’ve never met an adult who needs to be rocked or fed to sleep.

Wait till theyre 3 and have the ability to. If theyre not crying you can leave them alone and see if they settle themselves but to actually self sooth they dont have the developed part of their brain for that. The pre frontol cortex which controls your emotions and allows you to sooth yourself starts developing at 3 and finished sometimes between the age of 23 to 28 some evidence to show 33 recently.