Poorly + Jabs

I think me & little lady are both getting poorly & I am stressed out, she also has her 12 week jabs on Monday and it was honestly awful after her 8 week ones.

Someone tell me looking after a poorly baby + jabs + being poorly yourself whilst solo parenting day & night isn’t as bad as i am imagining (feed my delusions) 🥲

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I feel so stuck 😫

I am 36 years old (& yes by now, I should have known better, ik) and I feel like i made the biggest mistake of my life. I got pregnant shortly after meeting my 3rd baby's father. We were together 3 months before finding a house together. Worst mistake ever. He is a very narcissistic, manipulative person who thinks every thing has to be his way or not at all. The first half of our relationship revolved around his stresses (financial and mental) and he literally told me he couldnt focus on the relationship or the pregnancy until he felt like he got better. I had a hard time with that. Our relationship hadnt really even started, we had a kid on the way, & yet we werent working on our relationship and my feelings never seemed to matter because he was going through "worse" things.

Now his mental state has got better for himself at least (now that hes caught up on bills and such), but he still absolutely has zero empathy and consideration for me and my feelings. Has only been to one doctors appt over these past 8 months, never talks about baby or asks, & constantly stresses me out with him accusing me of talking to other guys. He doesn't help around the house at all and the one thing he has bought for baby, I pushed him to do it. Everything else, my family or I have got.

If I try to ignore him and go about my day without issues he'll blow up my phone and cause issues and accuse me of cheating. Like yesterday, I tried dojng something positive for myself throughout this pregnancy, tried having one good memory through it, by going out and doing a little maternity shoot. I never did a maternity shoot with my first two, so this was an entirely new experience for me and I was hoping it would make me feel good at least for one night. He couldnt even let me have that. Kept accusing me of being out on a date all night. He threatened to move all of my stuff out of my room so i didnt know what i was going to come back home to. Meanwhile he can go out EVERY Thursday and have drinks with his coworkers, and go to adult skating with his friends "for his mental health". & I get called crazy & insecure if I question what hes doing.

Im on this lease with him for another year and a half, even if i broke it and moved, I am 8 months pregnant and going on maternity leave soon. & there has been absolutely zero rentals lately in the area I need for my girls school district. He has his two kids on the weekends and can live wherever he pleases because his kids go to school while with their mom. He has less stuff than I do. Yet he refuses to make anything easy on me. He wont move and is constantly starting petty arguments , such as food my kids eat that he buys. They are teens and sometimes sneak food, who didnt at their age? & the food is literally a few dollars.

I just feel so damn stuck and unhappy. Idk what to do anymore 😫 I feel horrible for how much I changed up my kids lives. I was so stable and independent before I met him.

Idk what I expect to get out of this post, but just needed to rant cus I have absolutely zero people to talk to about it.

Pulsating neck?

Hello!
Has anyone had this with their little one?
Is it urgent or can it wait until monday for gp?
He is not in distress and breathes normally

4 month sleep regression..

Hey girls🤍 any tips on 4 month sleep regression? My boy is 16 weeks and has been going through this for the past 2 weeks, naps so well in the day but night time not as much! (Doesn’t help teeth are cutting through) I EBF, don’t use a dummy so he uses me for comfort and we co sleep but he used to sleep in his crib the first stretch but now wakes after 10/15 minutes so have him in the bed from the start.. any advice to help get through it as this mama is tired x

Mum has asked to be at the birth and I said no…

I’m having my first baby in January and my mum asked me today whether I’d like her to be in the room alongside my husband for the birth of little boy. I could tell she asked because it’s something she really wants but I felt it was important to be honest and say that I really just want it to be my husband and I, but would absolutely love for her to be in the waiting room and the first to meet him after us.

I received a really hostile response back and she told me that her best friend witnessed her daughter’s birth and she feels like I don’t love her as much / im not listening to her feelings because I don’t want to go down that route. It then became quite a negative conversation around how she feels left behind and that I only go to her ‘when I need something’.

It’s made me feel really emotional and turbulent and it’s made me feel quite sad because I feel like she’s not listening to what I want and my boundaries but instead making me feel bad for what is ultimately my decision.

Has anyone had something similar happen? How did you navigate the conversation after?

Is it worth it

Thinking of buying one of these for the little one. Are they worth it?
Mine just wants to sit up all the time but isnt stable yet

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I feel so stuck 😫

Pulsating neck?

4 month sleep regression..

Mum has asked to be at the birth and I said no…

Is it worth it

Poorly + Jabs