Advice

i used to struggle with this a lot until i realised that it’s only affecting my life because i let it.
life is so complex that we will never truly understand someone’s mind space, thoughts and intentions.
try to distract yourself and for me a big thing was to focus on my own actions and to make sure i am acting in a way that i am completely happy with.

i promise you 99% of a time it’s literally a them problem, nothing can be done.

and if their actions are upsetting you, that’s not the energy you want in your life anyways

That is sounding like youre a people pleaser. Meaning you dont want people to not like you, so you want to make sure you do everything to fix the situation if you upset them.

I was like that too. Until I got used too many times for my niceness and people thinking they can trat me like a revolving door and walk in and out of my life anytime they pleased.

Thats when I started to develop the no fucks to give attitude. And I stopped caring what people think. You dont like me, fine. You dont want to be around me, ok. But all of that is a YOU problem. Not Mine.

It took me a long time to come to this mindset. A lot of therapy too.

You just have to figure out, do you really care what they think? And are you wanting to be the liked person to have all the fake people around you?

I would recommend reading or listening to The Let Them Theory 💜