Feel alone

My partner does help lots with chores etc but in their own time they only want to do a hobby which gives me the ick and mainly irritates me as they talk about it all the time when I have no interest. It’s got to the stage where we barely talk and I just feel so disconnected… I don’t want to join in the hobby… what can I do :(

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Everyone is entitled to have their own hobbies, showing no interest seems a little selfish. What about thinking of a hobby you can both partake in?

What's his hobby? I'm intrigued now xD

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Me and my partner have completely different hobbies too, however we always listen to each other about our hobbies and try to actively ask questions ect to understand it and talk about them. We also buy each other presents related to our hobbies (I like horse riding so my partner buys me tickets to horse events and comes with me to watch despite him not being interested in horses and will ask to understand how it works ect). My partner loves history and gaming so we do day trips to museums that i wouldn’t normally be interested in and I listen to all of his random history facts ect. I think it’s super important to show interest jn what your partner is interested in and appreciate their hobby even if it isn’t for you. Could you try doing that both for each other? I feel like it’s a nice way to spend time together and chat together at the end of the day!

Thank you everyone for your honesty! Will do my best to improve and take an interest for them!

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