Struggling

My boy is 3 weeks and Im struggling so much. Every feed feels tense as i don't know if he'll drink calmly and then go to sleep or fuss/squirm/cry and spit up. I don't know how I'm ever going to leave the house with him like this. How do people do it? He was fussy this morning and I ended up just handing him over to my husband. Once he settled a d fell asleep I just lay in bed cuddling him, too scared to move or get up and do anything. I didn't have any breakfast and only managed to get up at lunch time as I needed to make him some more formula. I love him so much but I feel like such a useless mother.

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Im currently going through something similar and I feel exactly the same way! Youre not alonešŸ«¶šŸ»

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I am the exact same. We are 4 weeks tomorrow and been on the phone to my husband upset cause when he isnt asleep he is crying and I just cant seem to do anything to settle him and he doesn't really give me 'cues' on what he wants šŸ˜”

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I feel exactly the same, you're not alone, it's difficult but just know you're doing your best, it's all new to them too and you're definitely not a useless mother

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In exactly the same boat. No idea how we will ever leave the house, baby is either latched, crying/squirming or sleeping, but the sleeping has gotten so much less over the last 2/3days. I’ve just emailed a local IBCLC to hopefully get some support.

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My son is 5 weeks old, and we were in exactly the same situation, and still kind of are...

I don't know how we're going to go out like normal people, but we have made a couple of short trips and they're getting easier each time! We usually just walk to my corner shop, 5 mins each way. And if all goes well, i keep walking - ended up on 1.5 hour walk yesterday!
We also do the same thing with car journeys, short ones to begin with.
We have good days and then we have not so good days, where me and him are crying together. But the good days are becoming more, and they will for you too x

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Same here, baby is 2.5 weeks old and im also not coping on so little sleep . :(

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Are you burping them and giving any gas drops? Like dentinox?

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Struggling

My boy is 3 weeks and Im struggling so much. Every feed feels tense as i don't know if he'll drink calmly and then go to sleep or fuss/squirm/cry and spit up. I don't know how I'm ever going to leave the house with him like this. How do people do it? He was fussy this morning and I ended up just handing him over to my husband. Once he settled a d fell asleep I just lay in bed cuddling him, too scared to move or get up and do anything. I didn't have any breakfast and only managed to get up at lunch time as I needed to make him some more formula. I love him so much but I feel like such a useless mother.

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