Am I in the wrong?
My husband’s car broke down yesterday, so it’s currently in the shop getting fixed. This morning, I drove him to work. He normally starts at 7 a.m., but because I also have to take our son to school, I asked him if he could start a little later. He had no issue with that at the time.
Now tonight, his boss, who lives near us, offered to give him a ride to work, and his dad also offered because they’re heading in the same direction. Despite having those options, he’s insisting that I take him and that he needs to be at work for 7 a.m.
I asked him why, because that would mean I’d have to wake up around 5 a.m. and wake up both kids, including a baby and a toddler, just to drive him to work before taking our son to school. When I tried to explain why that would be difficult for me, he started going off on me, saying I make his life difficult.
I eventually got fed up and cussed him out too, because I was tired of being spoken to like that when I was simply trying to explain my situation. Now he’s stomping around, huffing and puffing, throwing a fit, and I’ve just walked away because I don’t want to keep arguing.
What frustrates me the most is that I’m already trying to help him out while his car is being repaired. He has two other people offering him rides, but somehow I’m the one making his life difficult because I can’t accommodate the exact time he wants. I have two young children to take care of, and my time and sleep matter too. I don’t think it’s unreasonable to expect him to consider that instead of making me feel guilty for not doing everything his way.
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Not in the wrong. If he wants to be at work at 7am, then he should have said yes to the other offers. That way it doesn't affect the children's schedule.
You aren’t in the wrong. He should accept those other rides or walk🤷🏾♀️
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