Nursery, how would you feel
My baby’s been in nursery for the last 5 months and after a long process of settling he seems happy. However, I’ve had a number of issues over this time I’ve not felt overly happy about. Now I’m at a point of considering re visiting other nurseries which feels huge knowing my sons established himself somewhere. Something that was really important to my husband and I was that the childcare setting took the babies out every so often. My son has not been out once since he started so spends 8hrs in one room. He really struggles to sleep whilst there and being in the same room for that many hours probably doesn’t help. I never get any updates in the week, never see any photos of him and on the blog posts he never appears in any photos. He has a key worker (newly assigned) but I’m not sure on the purpose of her as she’s hardly in and has never spoken to me. Then yesterday I collected him and he stunk of 💩. Got home and realised his nappy was dirty and clearly hadn’t been changed for a while. I keep telling myself as he’s happy and we’ve established our routine we are better off keeping going as changing setting is a huge decision make but I don’t know if it is worth checking a few other places out as this current one is the only one we visited originally
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He’s only happy because it’s something he’s used to now. The problem described are huge problems please don’t dismiss them. Children have to be outside. 5 months and no outdoor even in the summer???? No pictures or updates on your child? Leaving your child in a soiled nappy it’s neglect. I’ve worked in multiple nurseries. Rain or shine they are outside even if it’s for 15 minutes. We had to update the blog posts with pictures and every handover we got over what was done in the day. This is awful. Change nurseries your son will thank you in the long run
Change nurseries asap. My son’s nursery is amazing, regular updates on the app including pictures, proper documentation of nappy changes also added to the app. They also do regular “observations” which is recording his progress when they notice he’s achieved something new.
They also go out regularly on walks and also have forrest school.
You need a new nursery where your son will thrive, for the amount we pay each month that’s the bare minimum, also you as a parent needs to have the upmost confidence in the people your entrusting to care for your son.
What area do you live? Do not need to be specific.
I would change nursery. That’s not right! I am a nursery worker. No matter what the weather we have to go outside even if it’s for 10 minutes. We update parents with pictures and write down what we’ve done in the morning and what we will be doing in the afternoon and update the app with the photos from the afternoon. We have sensory room, little library area and a topic room. Which is used by all children from babies to preschool. We take our children on walks regularly which they love! I would definitely look at different nurseries and would also make a complaint about current one x
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Nursery, how would you feel
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