What to do with uninvolved grandparents?
How do you talk to your kids about their grandparents breaking promises and being uninvolved? They broke a promise to spend time with my son after missing his birthday and party. They did have a good reason for missing it, but it feels like they always make empty promises and spend more time with my nephew. I was stupid and told my son they were coming before they canceled and now I feel awful doing that to him.
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I had a firm conversation with my FIL and basically asked if he wanted to be a grandpa or just their dad’s dad. He made his choice and we stopped trying to include him.
I just do my best to keep the topic off of making plans around my kids, if my mom wants to make plans to do something w/them she’ll usually forget to say anything more than “we’re going to start getting together more often”, then be forced to call me later. We’re a ND family & my now 5yo is still at that stage where he’s extra excitable & my mom is pretty used to having conversations interrupted bc she spends a lot of time w/my brother, niece & autistic nephew, plus my other younger brother was ADHD & they didn’t know it but I’m AuDHD & OCD, but she’s been around since I was 11, bf I learned to count bf speaking so I wasn’t “rude”, suspects nothing, when I lead the conversation elsewhere. If I say anything about it or question if she’s serious, she’ll just cry & say a bunch of BS about it being my fault. My hubs agreed to keep his mouth shut for my dad, bc of his health & wanting his fam happy, but he passed a couple yrs ago, so now I’m more careful bc my hubs is very protective of us.
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What to do with uninvolved grandparents?
How do you talk to your kids about their grandparents breaking promises and being uninvolved? They broke a promise to spend time with my son after missing his birthday and party. They did have a good reason for missing it, but it feels like they always make empty promises and spend more time with my nephew. I was stupid and told my son they were coming before they canceled and now I feel awful doing that to him.
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